My ex boyfriend and I have dated for 4months. I love that man to death even though its been a short period. For the past month he confessed to me that he loves me and another women wich he happens to have been with her for years. Now says he still needs me in his life and wants me as his friend until he sees where his relationship goes. He says his family does not approve of me because they think I interfered in there relationship. I've been loyal to this man but he says he can't trust me and I'm not understanding.what should I do?

Have they been still dating since you 2 were together?
If so. I think he should stay with her.
If not, he should stay with you!

You leave him. Plain and simple.

Why are you sticking around? You're basically his insurance policy. If his relationship goes bad, he's got you to fall back on. You must have a bit more self dignity than that?

Your helping him cheat on his current girlfriend! Find someone who isn't in a relationship. His family shouldn't approve of you. I'm going through this now. I was with him 7 years and he is "seeing" someone else! Stay away and let them be. Your just as bad as he is for encouraging him to cheat on his woman. Smh...

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my ex boyfriend and I have dated for 4months. I love that man to death even though its been a short period. for the past month he confessed to me that he loves me and another women wich he happens to have been with her for years. now says he still needs me in his life and wants me as his friend until he sees where his relationship goes. He says his family does not approve of me because they think I interfered in there relationship. I've been loyal to this man but he says he can't trust me and I'm not understanding.what should I do?

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Please pay attention to this warning sign: He is cheating on a woman he has been with for years, but he can't trust you.

He wants you as a friend while he sees where the relationship he has been in for years is going?

Does that make any sense to you on any level?

How long has he been your ex? I hope for the month that you have known about his current relationship.

You may care deeply about him. It might even be love. I think he has encouraged those feelings to get you to agree to being his fall back plan or in the future his willing and consenting mistress. I would wonder how many other women he has tried to capture in this trap.

His family is getting their information from him. You are getting your information from him. Guess who is protecting his own hide to keep from taking the blame for a situation he created. I don't think he shares the same feelings for you that you do for him.

You need to break off all contact with him. Give yourself time and ways to let him go and move forward with your own life. You are not his property to be picked up whenever he feels like and you have no obligation to him. There is reason for him to say anything about not trusting you. He has already given you a taste of what you can expect in the future if you stay in contact. If he can't trust you now, it will only get worse as you try to have a life beyond the one he thinks you should.

Do not allow this person to damage your self-respect. You deserve someone who respects you and is willing to share his love and life with you. You deserve someone who doesn't think it is okay to have multiple relationships at one time. You deserve someone who trusts you as much as you trust him.

Don't settle for less than you deserve.