There is a certain woman I like, I'll call her "Sarah". She's 27 years old and I am 33. I've known her for about 3 years now, I see her when she comes in my work and I wait on her. She also lives 2 streets over from me and we walk our dogs together sometimes, and see each other on the streets.

She has a boyfriend, that is 44, I'll call him "Rich", and is a divorcée. Since I've known her, she has had at least 4 fall-outs with him and he kicks her out of his house. She uses his car because she can't afford one and he takes it back when he kicks her out.

Her father is deceased and her mother lives 25 miles away and she can't keep affording to drive that far to work down here, so she moves back with him. I really have interest in her and want to tell her but don't want to get in between, but I don't think those two have a good relationship.

She did give me her phone number and we text each other about hanging out and we have hugged a couple times. What do I do? -"Eric confused and lost in words."

You mean you're a hero? You need to Calm down and don't mass up. From your description, they two don't have good relationship. So, if you can give what she wants, you may have a try.
Good luck.

I'm sorry, but what part of "boyfriend" do you not understand?

Good relationship or not, she STILL has a boyfriend.

Don't say anything to her about it.

NOW, if they breakup, well, then, it's OK to say you have neen interested in her. Until then, keep your distance, because YOU wouldn't like it if you were with a girl and had another guy pursue her...

I knew I would get those answers from both side of the spectrum. Miller did you mean 'mess' up? And enigma, I don't even know if the 2 are dating, or she's living there for convenience. I guess I'll ride out the storm and she how the trwo work out.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

I'm sorry, but what part of "boyfriend" do you not understand?

Good relationship or not, she STILL has a boyfriend.

Don't say anything to her about it.

NOW, if they breakup, well, then, it's ok to say you have neen interested in her. Until then, keep your distance, because YOU wouldn't like it if you were with a girl and had another guy persue her....

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I knew you'd say that. From my point of view, if I had a girlfriend that I kept kicking out, I sure as hell wouldn't have her move back in. I guess wait 'til she's single or move on, no sense beating a dead horse

I think the most important thing is what she think about her life.If she think she need that man and the man can give her something that she want and she can stand what the man did,you shouldn't tell her you feeling or you can do and good luck to you.

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Originally Posted by winterback

I think the most important thing is what she think about her life.If she think she need that man and the man can give her something that she want and she can stand what the man did,you shouldn't tell her you feeling or you can do and good luck to you.

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Very good answer. There's no point in thrying to figure her out, might as well move on.

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Originally Posted by Pdog1979

I knew you'd say that. From my point of view, if I had a girlfriend that I kept kicking out, I sure as hell wouldn't have her move back in. I guess wait 'til shes single or move on, no sense beating a dead horse

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Don't get me wrong, her realationship with her boyfriend or what have you is an unhealthy one...

Just keep it simple for now... See what happens. Also remember that if they do break up... and they will... is to play it safe. What you DON'T want, is to be a rebound. I'm not t
Saying that you WILL be, however, you never know.

If this is meant to be, then it will be.

Also, I know I may have sounded harsh in my OP, and I thank you for not going off on me. You actually got what I was trying to say, and accepted it.

FINALLY! A normal poster!

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Don't get me wrong, her realationship with her boyfriend or what have you is an unhealthy one...

Just keep it simple for now...See what happens. Also remember that if they do break up....and they will....is to play it safe. What you DON'T want, is to be a rebound. I'm not t
Saying that you WILL be, however, you never know.

If this is meant to be, then it will be.

Also, I know I may have sounded harsh in my OP, and I thank you for not going off on me. You actually got what I was trying to say, and accepted it.

FINALLY! A normal poster!

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Cool! I have tried in the past to get closer to her and she doesn't ignore me, but he has her over a barrel so I'll wait it out if I'm single at that point. Thanks for your input!

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Don't get me wrong, her realationship with her boyfriend or what have you is an unhealthy one...

Just keep it simple for now...See what happens. Also remember that if they do break up....and they will....is to play it safe. What you DON'T want, is to be a rebound. I'm not t
Saying that you WILL be, however, you never know.

If this is meant to be, then it will be.

Also, I know I may have sounded harsh in my OP, and I thank you for not going off on me. You actually got what I was trying to say, and accepted it.

FINALLY! A normal poster!

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Hey so the other night, I was walking my dog, and she was taking her dog out and we ran into each other. So we walked around the neighborhood together and talked and I told her how I felt and she thought it was awfully sweet and things between her and her boyfriend are complicated but she said if she was single that she would definitely go out with me and she said appriciated me for telling her and wishes things(in her life) were different. I felt better telling her that and she wishes things were more in her favor on a daily basis.