My husband after almost 20 years got in touch with his ex fiancée and went into a loving relationship with her for five months until I found out. He then felt deep regret, said he can't live without me and that I'm the person he loves most in his life. He broke up with her but I know that, several years later now, he is still in love with her. I know he loves me more, but it still hurts me so much that I'm not his only love and I don't know how to keep on living with this pain.

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Originally Posted by Amael

My husband after almost 20 years got in touch with his ex fiancee and went into a loving relationship with her for five months until i found out. He then felt deep regret, said he can't live without me and that I'm the person he loves most in his life. He broke up with her but I know that, several years later now, he is still in love with her. I know he loves me more, but it still hurts me so much that I'm not his only love and I don't know how to keep on living with this pain.

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I was widowed. I will always love my late husband. That doesn't mean I will never love anyone else.

Does he love her or is he in love with her? If you chose to forgive the affair you can either move on OR end your marriage.

I'm not sure you aren't torturing yourself for no apparent reason.

He may love her, but he is in love with you and stayed with you.
You either forgive him and make things work, or you dwell on this and the marriage will not stand.