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  • Aug 31, 2012, 12:08 AM
    shada95
    My ex BF
    He broke up with me after year... without reason he say's he's boring he can't take this relationship any more.. but I can't let him go I'm always calling him to talk when I see him talking with another girls I'm starting to cry and I'm starting a fight with the with the girls he talken to I love him so much how can I mOve on in my life??
  • Aug 31, 2012, 05:55 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    He broke up with me after year ...without reason he say's he's boring he can't take this relationship any more ..but i can't let him go im always calling him to talk when i see him talking with another girls im starting to cry and im starting a fight with the withe the girls he talken to i love him so much how can i mOve on in my life??????!


    A big beginning is to believe him when he says he can't take your relationship any longer - and stop contacting him.

    It's not a question of you "can't" let hm go - you have to let him go.

    You can't make anybody love you, and if you continue to badger him you will also lose his respect.

    Give him time and space and see what happens.
  • Aug 31, 2012, 06:35 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    A big beginning is to believe him when he says he can't take your relationship any longer - and stop contacting him.

    It's not a question of you "can't" let hm go - you have to let him go.

    You can't make anybody love you, and if you continue to badger him you will also lose his respect.

    Give him time and space and see what happens.

    But if I give him this space he will be with another girl
  • Aug 31, 2012, 06:44 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    But if i give him this space he will be with another girl


    Right. If you don't give him space he will be with another girl.

    Re-read what I said. You CANNOT make someone love you, date you, "be" with you, quit smoking or do anything else.

    He told you very clearly that your relationship is over.

    Respect him and respect yourself and leave him alone. Don't be desperate and groveling.
  • Aug 31, 2012, 06:47 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Right. If you don't give him space he will be with another girl.

    Re-read what I said. You CANNOT make someone love you, date you, "be" with you, quit smoking or do anything else.

    He told you very clearly that your relationship is over.

    Respect him and respect yourself and leave him alone. Don't be desperate and groveling.

    I will try to do that and give him his space
  • Sep 1, 2012, 05:48 PM
    LOLlover
    Oviously the relationship isn't going to progress if he's not interested then he isn't interested, you have to face those facts.Remember there are plenty more fish in the sea
  • Sep 3, 2012, 05:32 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by LOLlover View Post
    oviously the relationship isn't going to progress if he's not interested then he isn't interested, you have to face those facts.Remember their are plenty more fish in the sea

    But how can I see him with this new girl :'(
  • Sep 3, 2012, 06:12 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    But how can i see him with this new girl :'(


    There is no other choice - you need to act like an adult old enough to have a boyfriend and live your life.

    I have to know this question is one that cannot be answered by anything but "you have no choice."
  • Sep 3, 2012, 11:28 AM
    shada95
    My ex
    I know my ex have a new girlfriend so I want him to broke up with her.. I opened Facebook with her name and I put some pic for her.. my ex know that's was me he call me we had a fight what can I do I know what I did was wrong but I felt jealous :(((
  • Sep 3, 2012, 11:45 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    i know my ex have a new gf so i want him to broke up with her .. I opened facebook with her name and i put some pic for her .. my ex know that's was me he call me we had a fight what can i do i know what i did was wrong but I felt jealous :(((


    You have post after post after post about what Islam allows and doesn't allow, what is forbidden and what is not - but you have no problem opening a FB account in someone else's name?

    Jealousy is no excuse. You've posted before about this toxic relationship. He wants NOTHING to do with you. What part of that don't you understand? He has said very clearly that he is FINISHED with both you and the relationship.

    At best I think you are a religious hypocrite - at worst you are a stalker.

    Leave this man and his girlfriend alone before you are arrested.

    Is she going to pursue criminal charges against you over the FB postings?
  • Sep 3, 2012, 11:55 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You have post after post after post about what Islam allows and doesn't allow, what is forbidden and what is not - but you have no problem opening a FB account in someone else's name?

    Jealousy is no excuse. You've posted before about this toxic relationship. He wants NOTHING to do with you. What part of that don't you understand? He has said very clearly that he is FINISHED with both you and the relationship.

    At best I think you are a religious hypocrite - at worst you are a stalker.

    Leave this man and his girlfriend alone before you are arrested.

    Is she going to pursue criminal charges against you over the FB postings?

    No she didn't know about the FB he didn't tell her.. how can I fix the problem with my ex he won't pick up my calls
  • Sep 3, 2012, 12:08 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    No she didn't know about the FB he didn't tell her .. how can i fix the problem with my ex he wont pick up my calls


    You need professional help.

    You are religious - but fraud isn't a problem for you.

    He's told you he wants no part of you - that doesn't change anything for you.

    He's told you wants no part of a relationship with you - and you keep persisting.

    I wouldn't pick up your calls either. I would guess at some point or another he's going to accuse you of stalking him - and her.

    You think she won't find out about FB?

    Leave him alone - there is nothing else left to say.

    He's FINISHED with you, and the reasons are becoming very obvious.
  • Sep 3, 2012, 05:08 PM
    JudyKayTee
    You posted that you overdosed, tried to kill yourself. Twice, in fact.

    Now you are back on line. What happened?
  • Sep 4, 2012, 02:29 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You posted that you overdosed, tried to kill yourself. Twice, in fact.

    Now you are back on line. What happened?

    Im okay right now :)
  • Sep 4, 2012, 03:04 AM
    joypulv
    People aren't broken toys or cars that won't run. You don't 'fix' people. He doesn't want you. I suspect that by now he can't stand you. You need a life of your OWN, and stop obsessing over a man. Start some courses and study a lot. Meet new people. Unrequited love happens a million times a day all over the world.
  • Sep 4, 2012, 05:33 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    Im okay right now :)

    You are childish, foolish and irresponsible - you posted TWICE yesterday that you had taken medication to kill yourself and were waiting to die.

    Now you're back with a smiley face.

    If this is how you behave in person I can well understand why your boyfriend wants no part of your juvenile behavior.

    I was concerned - very concerned - about you. And here you are, smiley face and all.

    You are a taker and in this case you took advantage of me.
  • Sep 4, 2012, 05:39 AM
    shada95
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You are childless, foolish and irresponsible - you posted TWICE yesterday that you had taken medication to kill yourself and were waiting to die.

    Now you're back with a smiley face.

    If this is how you behave in person I can well understand why your boyfriend wants no part of your juvenile behavior.

    I was concerned - very concerned - about you. And here you are, smiley face and all.

    You are a taker and in this case you took advantage of me.

    What do you want me back with a cry face?! What if god ddn't want me to die what should I do!! Don't be so rude with me
  • Sep 4, 2012, 05:52 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shada95 View Post
    What do you want me back with a cry face ?!!!! What if god ddn't want me to die what should i do !!!!! Don't be so rude with me


    Be rude with you? You're the one posting you TOOK medicine, not that you were planning to take it, and were sitting, waiting to die. Maybe you think that's funny. I don't.

    Please keep God out of this - was it God's idea that you would open two, not one but two, suicide threads?

    So - did you take the medication or not? Was that your way of seeing how involved and upset you could get other people?

    No, I think you should get off the Internet and go for professional help.

    On other threads you are preaching religion and what God wants, and then you pull a stunt like that?

    You have problems. You're stalking your "ex," you're making up FB accounts in the name of someone he is dating currently, you're posting suicide threats.

    Get help.
  • Sep 4, 2012, 07:24 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    People aren't broken toys or cars that won't run. You don't 'fix' people. He doesn't want you. I suspect that by now he can't stand you. You need a life of your OWN, and stop obsessing over a man. Start some courses and study a lot. Meet new people. Unrequited love happens a million times a day all over the world.


    You missed the "I've just overdosed and I'm going to die" - not once but on two separate threads.

    This OP is a master manipulator. The boyfriend has obviously seen that and moved on!
  • Sep 10, 2012, 02:29 PM
    shada95
    Have a new boyfriend but can't forget the old one
    What should I do to deal with this?

    My ex boyfriend after he break up with me he has a new girlfriend... I need to move on so I have boyfriend now but I'm still thinking about my ex I can't forget him I don't love my new bd even he's so nice with
    Me... Should I. Give him time to make me love him and forget all about ex boyfriend

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