I have affair with a married man for 8 years. He wants me wait for 4 more years until his second child 18 yrs old. Should I do that or break up with him? I love him so much but tired to be alone. I'm 51 yrs old and he's 52 yrs old.

You need to move on. It is very selfish of him to ask you to wait 4 more years. He has the best of both worlds.

You have already wasted 8 years on a cheater.

Why would you waste any more of your time? He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Waiting until his youngest child is grown won't change anything if he really plans to leave his wife to be with you.

He's making excuses. I'd venture to say that he's made excuses the entire time you've been with him.

He always says he want to see his lovely daughter every day not in the weekend. I have kids too so I understand how to miss the children.

And what will his excuse be in four years?

His daughter is 14 yrs old now. He wait for her go to college so he will divorce his wife. He married her since 1984.

And you believe that?
You have wasted 8 years on this guy. He has had his wife , his child and you when it is convenient. Don't you think you have deserved better?

Yes, He has everything and I'm always lonely.
Today, I told him that I will not sleep with him until he divorce. Then he reduce the time from 4 to 2. I won the first round. Yeah!

You really didn't win anything. In 2 years, it will be the same way. He's just trying to keep you going. You are wasting your time.

You lose, like you have been losing for 8 years.

You've wasted 8 years of your life on this man, plan to waste another 2, and you think that's winning?

He's the only one winning. He has a wife at home that he sleeps with, and a willing mistress that he sleeps with. I'm sure you're not the only one he has on the side.