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  • Aug 26, 2012, 06:29 PM
    maddiecake
    I'm 10 and don't know how to ask my mom for a padded bra
    I'm to scared she's going to say no. I've been wearing sports bras for a year now and my friends are wearing padded bras when they don't need to they just don't want to be made fun of for having a flat chest. Some even wear 3 padded bras at the same time. I need to wear one now though I'm devolping boobs I'm a 32a but my mom keeps on buying me training bras that are tight and itchy.please help.
  • Aug 26, 2012, 07:00 PM
    teacherjenn4
    You can tell your mom or show her that they are tight and itchy. You would be showing her the marks the bras leave on you. As for a padded bra, if you are developing then your mom may try buying you a different style. A ten year old should not try to pretend she has something that isn't real. And believe me, I teach students your age, and the boys are not interested in girls with padded bras!
  • Aug 26, 2012, 07:03 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Or girls for that matter.
  • Aug 27, 2012, 04:12 AM
    JudyKayTee
    I continue to be amazed by the "padded" bra questions from kids who seem to be younger and younger when they post AND the number of kids who cannot talk to their parents about issues such as this.

    If you can't talk to your children when they are 10, what happens when they are 14?
  • Aug 27, 2012, 04:57 AM
    ScottGem
    And what if she says no? Do you believe your mother doesn't care about you?

    As for a padded bra, having helped raise a daughter I can understand why a child, just starting to develop might prefer a bra with some shape to it. Girls develop differently. Without going into detail, certain types of developing breasts may not look right in snug shirts. So the padding (while it may not provide support) provides a less embarrassing shape. So I'm not going to assume, that the OP (or any young girl) wants padding to enhance the bust.

    The time when breasts start developing can be a very awkward one for a girl. Parents need to be sensitive to that and usually are.
  • Aug 27, 2012, 05:07 AM
    JudyKayTee
    As a female, I agree - "developing" can be a minefield.

    The friends wearing 3 bras, one on top of the other, makes me think this is more about size than support or protection or something else.

    I look around at my friend's 10 year olds and wonder - but, of course, I haven't met the OP.
  • Aug 27, 2012, 05:28 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post

    The friends wearing 3 bras, one on top of the other, makes me think this is more about size than support or protection or something else.

    Good point. Forgot about that comment. Though layering seems to be the style nowadays. I see girls with what looks like 3, 4 or 5 straps on their shoulders.
  • Aug 27, 2012, 05:59 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Good point. Forgot about that comment. Though layering seems to be the style nowadays. I see girls with what looks like 3, 4 or 5 straps on their shoulders.


    Yes, that's the "look." Yesterday I saw a young woman wearing a strapless top OVER a regular bra.

    Sort of defeats the "strapless" purpose.
  • Aug 27, 2012, 09:27 AM
    ScottGem
    "In olden days a glimpse of stocking was looked on as something shocking
    Now heaven knows...Anything Goes"
    Cole Porter

    Nuff said?
  • Aug 27, 2012, 09:31 AM
    Wondergirl
    What happened to the stuff-your-bra-with-tissues trend from the '50s?

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