Married man chased me after our first meeting at a friend's place. When he realized I was getting emotional, he reduced his calls under the pretext of being too busy and stuff... but at the same time we kept meeting off and on. I AM married too. He said all sweet things and I got carried away.. to the extent that I slept with him. During that time he mentioned I was just a fling for him and we couldn't term it as an extramarital affair... he also mentioned that while he is with me, he may also have sexual relations with other women, which of course I did not like... so after that first sexual encounter with him, I broke with him precisely after just one month of this short phase. After that, he wrote to me saying I had to accept relations as it is... now that confused me. We have had no contact after that... is he giving me more time to think, or playing another game to see if I am really interested, or simply trying to let go of things... What do I do??

diya, you are not going to like what I have to say, but please take this advice knowing it is meant with the best of intentions. You need to concentrate on your marriage and forget about that guy.

He figured you were safe, because you are married too. He wants to keep having his flings because he will not leave his wife. You got too serious, and it raised a red flag to him. He just wants extracurricular sex from you. Nothing more. He is enjoying himself at your expense. He doesn't want any emotional attachments. Please dear, break off any and all contact with him. And, if he tries to reach out to you again, ignore him. God only knows how many women he has slept with and will continue to sleep with. He is a charmer and knows how to play the game. We have all met one of those at one time or another. Sex might have been good but if you keep this up, your husband will notice the change in you. And then what will happen? If you get a divorce, this other guy will not want you any more than he does now. He will NEVER leave his wife willingly.

You are a married woman having an affair with a married man. If you don't love your husband, leave him, and then find another unmarried person to have a new relationship with. This 'relationship' will go nowhere. You are both cheaters.

ARE you serious??

You actually DON'T know what's going on here? HE USED YOU FOR SEX. THAT'S IT. THERE WAS NO Relationship. THERE WAS NOTHING TO BREAKOFF!!

ALL married guys want is sex. You were perfect because your married.

This guy had ZERO interest in you other than to get in your pants and use you. You were VERY easy to him.

There was never any relationship _NEVER!

Go see a counselour wit hyour husband TODAY. FIX YOUR married because it's obviously a complete mess.

AND I feel sorry for your husband. I hope you don't have kids.

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He wants you back because you were a free available piece so he wants to make sure he can hit it when he wants to. If you even act like your falling for him he backs off because there is only one part of you he wants. You should get professional help as to what it is that makes you so gullible as to a mans attentions when your both married. Wildcat is right, your marriage is probably a mess, and that's where you should be asking what to do.

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Originally Posted by RubyPitbull

diya, you are not going to like what I have to say, but please take this advice knowing it is meant with the best of intentions. You need to concentrate on your marriage and forget about that guy.

He figured you were safe, because you are married too. He wants to keep having his flings because he will not leave his wife. You got too serious, and it raised a red flag to him. He just wants extracurricular sex from you. Nothing more. He is enjoying himself at your expense. He doesn't want any emotional attachements. Please dear, break off any and all contact with him. And, if he tries to reach out to you again, ignore him. God only knows how many women he has slept with and will continue to sleep with. He is a charmer and knows how to play the game. We have all met one of those at one time or another. Sex might have been good but if you keep this up, your husband will notice the change in you. And then what will happen? If you get a divorce, this other guy will not want you any more than he does now. He will NEVER leave his wife willingly.

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Thank you Ruby... it helps... all the advice that you guys render...

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Originally Posted by diya

Married man chased me after our first meeting at a friend's place. When he realized I was getting emotional, he reduced his calls under the pretext of being too busy and stuff...but at the same time we kept meeting off and on. I AM married too. He said all sweet things and I got carried away..to the extent that i slept with him. During that time he mentioned i was just a fling for him and we couldn't term it as an extramarital affair...he also mentioned that while he is with me, he may also have sexual relations with other women, which ofcourse i did not like...so after that first sexual encounter with him, i broke with him precisely after just one month of this short phase. After that, he wrote to me saying I had to accept relations as it is....now that confused me. We have had no contact after that...is he giving me more time to think, or playing another game to see if I am really interested, or simply trying to let go of things...What do i do???

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Don't talk to him because he not taken you serious he just using you for what you got and what you can give him. And plus it's not safe to have sex with him especially if he's sleeping with you and other women. All and all you are a married women you shouldn't be cheating on your husband any way but if you feel in your heart that you shouldn't be talking to him than don't cause the heart never lies.

diya what you did it .ur not happy with your husband.if you find that your husband have sexuall relationship .what you can react.so leave him he destroy your personal life.be attached with your husband and never contact with that person if he trying to contact with u please ignore him

Best of luck

Uh yeah, he's playing a game to see if you're really interested... so he can have "no strings attached" sex with you.
What about your marriage and your husband?
Sounds like you need some counseling. Please see someone.