I'm a year old girl and my boyfriend and I have been active sexually for 3 years. Sex used to be enjoyable or me, but for the last two years, I have noticed a major issue in our relationship. Often when I request to have sex, he refuses. When he complies, once he finishes, that's it(meaning that once he ejaculates, it's my cue to get up. No finishing me by oral or hand or anything), which means that I kid you not, I have not had an orgasm in two years. Most people say I should masturbate, but I'm not able to finish by hand and he won't allow me a vibrator because it makes him jealous so I'm literally stuck at all times. I'm fed up with not feeling satisfied but dot know what to do, especially because we have been together for years and now live together so Its not as simple as 'moving on to someone else'. We get along every other way, but like I said I never get to finish and he does. Help, please?:(

He's got a bit of a control thing going on with the sex? Is he controlling in other ways?

He used to be, but no longer is. I don't know how to talk to him about it, any of it, or what to do either :(

Any idea why he is this way in the bedroom?

Not really :/

You probably don't want to hear this but it sounds like he is way to conrolling and could care less about you and your needs. He obviously doesn't care what makes you happy or what makes you feel good. Before you waste more time in a relationship like this I would leave and try to find someone else. Yes, 3 years is a long time but it's not forever and why waste more time on a jerk like him? I'd leave asap, but that's just me. I hope you find yourself in a better place with any relationship you may have soon.