I'm a 16 year old girl who has always wanted to find my real mom.. I always feel this empty space where I know she should be... I'm from romania.. I was adoptied in 1997 I was born on oct,1995... I know nothing about my past or who my parints could be... I don't even know if there alive... it would be my dream just to find any thing out about any one in my real family... even just a name because I know I need to find some one... I need to find out who I really am... it kills me evey night knowing that I will probably never find any thing... if any one knows how I can find my family and what's ways I can go about this plez help me...

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Originally Posted by hannah1234

im a 16 year old girl who has always wanted to find my real mom .. i always feel this empty space where i know she should be ... im from romania .. i was adoptied in 1997 i was born on oct,1995 ... i know nothing about my past or who my parints could be ... i dont even know if there alive ... it would be my dream just to find any thing out about any one in my real family... even just a name because i know i need to find some one ... i need to find out who i realy am ... it kills me evey night knowing that i will probly never find any thing ... if any one knows how i can find my family and whats ways i can go about this plez help me ...

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Where are you now? And, no, nobody can help you until you are of legal age.

You feel no connection with your adoptive family - and that includes gratitude?

One thing you have to keep in mind is that you run the risk of finding out things you necessarily didn't want to know.

Do you know why you were adopted?

Here's why I ask. I am not telling you this to scare you or anything. Just a story of a friend of mine who was adopted. (P.S. I was adopted too).

My friend had the urge to find her biological parents as well. She was a little bit older than you but she decided to sit and talk with her adoptive mother about the issue. Her mother, thinking she was old enough to know, gave her all the information she had wanted. Her name at birth, her parents name, birth city, etc...

With the good information came the bad. The reason she was adopted was not of good circumstances. I won't go into details but I hope you catch my drift.

I'm simply saying, be careful what you wish for. It's not always what you're expecting.

Well I'm in USA CT now.. I do love my family and would never leave them for another family... I've just always wondered what my patients looked like why they abandoned me and things like that... Because I was abandoned no one new any thing about my parints.. Nothing at all so I know I probably will never find them but maybe just trying would get me some where .

Until you are 18, the ONLY people who can help you search are your legal parents.

I'm sorry.