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My girlfriend wants a break and I don't know how to handle it..

Mt girlfriend Wants a break and I don't know how to handle it... We have been dating for 5 months and I love her vary much... She tested me and told me that she misses her old life that she wants a break... She says she still loves me and I always say it back... She says she wants a break because her mom and her husband took a break and after a little they got back together and things went great when they got back together... She also said that she wants to take a break to figure out why she needs me and loves me.. Please help me I can't handle this on my own...

Wanting a break is typically the easy way out of a relationship. Don't expect her to come back, for now start moving on.

I would tell her (if she asks) that a break to me means a break up with absolutely no contact, and I will carry on with dating and having fun in various ways. Like C0bra said, "break" = breakup.

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I would tell her (if she asks) that a break to me means a break up with absolutely no contact, and I will carry on with dating and having fun in various ways. Like C0bra said, "break" = breakup.

But how can I handle this... She might be pregnant.

New information! Please tell up important stuff like that in your first post.

So, I don't understand her -- she wants to take a break so you two will reunite and be more in love than ever before? Mature couples either work things out together or find a couples counselor to help them.

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New information! Please tell up important stuff like that in your first post.

So, I don't understand her -- she wants to take a break so you two will reunite and be more in love than ever before? Mature couples either work things out together or find a couples counselor to help them.

Thanks a lot

Can you ask her to go to a couples counselor for a few sessions?

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Can you ask to go to a couples counselor for a few sessions?

I could but I don't want to contact her first... We could do the cupple counciling but I don't think she's the type to do that... I will try but please give me further advice

If she finds out she is pregnant and you two are apart, will she tell you?

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If she finds out she is pregnant and you two are apart, will she tell you?

Yes she definitely will... She and I want to have a baby so we can stay together... I know it sounds childish but I want to be with her till the end of time... I love her

As much as you don't want to accept it and hear it. You have to let her go. She sounds like maybe she is not as ready as you are. It's the cheesiest line in the whole world that I've always hated but it makes the most sense in the world "If you love someone let them go and if they come back there your and if they dont its not meant to be" I can speak off experience because I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 yrs! And after 4 months of being apart she came back to me and so far we are 1 month in and happier then we ever been. Not to say this may be the same outcome for you but you owe it to her to let her go and show her that her feelings are important to you and its time to show her your true strength that you can let her go. If its meant to be she will come back. Last thing you ever want is for someone to stay with you out of pitty. Let her go. Be strong. Take the time apart to focus on yourself and most important during the time apart DO NOT contact her. Show her that you can be OK without her and trust me it will work lol. If you show weakness and cry and beg for her to stay or not leave its just going to push her away more. Remember every women wants and needs a man with confidence and strength. Good luck

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As much as you dont want to accept it and hear it. You have to let her go. She sounds like maybe she is not as ready as you are. Its the cheesiest line in the whole world that ive always hated but i makes the most sense in the world "If you love someone let them go and if they come back there your and if they dont its not meant to be" I can speak off experiance because I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 yrs!! and after 4 months of being apart she came back to me and so far we are 1 month in and happier then we ever been. Not to say this may be the same outcome for you but you owe it to her to let her go and show her that her feelings are important to you and its time to show her your true strength that you can let her go. If its meant to be she will come back. Last thing you ever want is for someone to stay with you out of pitty. Let her go. Be strong. Take the time apart to focus on yourself and most important during the time apart DO NOT contact her. Show her that you can be ok without her and trust me it will work lol. If you show weakness and cry and beg for her to stay or not leave its just gonna push her away more. Remember every women wants and needs a man with confidence and strength. Good luck

Thanks a lot... We talked earlier this morning and she said its just a break... She told me she don't want us looking for other people because she loves me and she doesn't want me to find anyone better

Yea but if that was the case why would she need a break then? Sorry but sounds to me like its her way of letting you down easy and breaking up. Its only been 5 months. Let her go bro

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Yea but if that was the case why would she need a break then? Sorry but sounds to me like its her way of letting you down easy and breaking up. Its only been 5 months. Let her go bro

I don't hink I can... I'm in love with this girl... If she comes back things will be different

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I don't hink I can... I'm in love with this girl.... If she comes back things will be different

You say that now, but nothing really changes. Once you're both comfortable with each other again you bounce back into the same routine.

You're lost, hopeless and dependent upon her. Start working on yourself. You need to be able to survive on your own, to be able to survive with someone else.

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You say that now, but nothing really changes. Once you're both comfortable with eachother again you bounce back into the same routine.

You're lost, hopeless and dependant upon her. Start working on yourself. You need to be able to survive on your own, to be able to survive with someone else.

As u can see I'm vary stubborn.. Lol but I don't think she wants a break up I think she wants to simply take a break

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As u can see I'm vary stubborn.. Lol but I don't think she wants a break up I think she wants to simply take a break

If that's what she wants, great. All I'm trying to get you to do is start moving on so that if she decides it's best to stay apart, which is was the majority of people needing a break do, then you're not so blind sided. I realize not everyone that takes a break stays apart, sometimes it does work out. I just hate to see someone wait around anxiously and put their lives on hold for a person who may or may not return.

Start moving on, get your mind off her. Focus on yourself, do some things alone something you enjoy doing, maybe try something new. Surround yourself with friends and be happy and if she comes back great, but if she doesn't then you're already a step ahead.