My 5 year old son saw 2 people kissing on the road, and was starring at them, what should I tell him or how should I handle this situation? Help.
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My 5 year old son saw 2 people kissing on the road, and was starring at them, what should I tell him or how should I handle this situation? Help.
Just tell him the truth, people kiss when they are in love with one another. It's a special way of saying I love you between mummies and daddies.
Don't say anything unless he asks. Does he not see affection between his parents?
Squiffy is right, but why say anything at all if he doesn't ask.
That is easy just say to where he would understand it that" they must be in love"
I am sure it is not the first time he has seen people kissing, but if it makes you feel better next time just ask what he is staring at? This way you can explain it to him
Has he not seen his mommy and daddy kiss? Or Aunts and Uncles? It is an expression of love. However, I would not make a big deal out of it. I am sure that he does not think it is a big deal.
If it was a very passionate tongue kissing kind of thing explain the difference between "grown up kisses" and "kid kisses". When he gets kissed goodnight or gets a kiss from his parents it's a kids kiss because his mother and father love him. When he grows up he might fall in love and then he will do grown up kissing to show his affection because that's what adults do.
My mother had to explain the difference between grown up kissing and kids kissing to me when I saw tongue kissing in a movie at about 4/5 years old. When she explained I realised it was "soppy stuff" and lost interest.
Hello aj:
Uhhhh, what's wrong with the truth?? Or, you could tell him they were digging for worms, or doing a medical procedure on each other.
I don't know. Are you afraid that your 5 year old will be damaged finding out that people kiss??
excon
Great Question excon
These are all great suggestions but you might want to add a little caution to the story about who is allowed to kiss him. If he doesn't understand about two people kissing then he might be unsure about who can kiss him. The adult kisses and kid kisses is a great example! I know that not all of humanity is evil and I know you do the best you can to protect him from strangers but it never hurts to remind him about the few people who are off their rockers out there. Also warn him about appropriate kisses, even family members can abuse kids. Its always okay to tell on bad guys right! Sorry for the downer all!!
Just say its natural and when he gets older he'll see
I don't see that you need to say anything unless he asks a question. As to how to handle it... unless it was an X rated kiss, why is there something to handle? Kissing is a sign of affection between people. They could be a mother/father and daughter/son, close friends, boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, etc. If there was something wrong with it, then an offhanded remark about it being rude and inappropriate would be in order (unless it was VERY explicit), but if it was just a kiss between two people I think quiet acceptance is in order.
I hope your son is exposed to plenty of hugs, kisses and good touch between people. It makes the bad touch easier to explain.
Didi
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