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  • Aug 22, 2012, 11:12 AM
    insekure
    Have I pushed him too far?
    My husband and I have been married for over two years now, my previous relationship caused a lot of insekurities on my part,accusations of cheating and jealousy and lately they've been kausing problems it's to the point that he is now telling me he no longer wants to be with me and I'm finally forced to admit that I am insekure and I do want to change and be more sekure with myself and our marriage is it too late to fix it or have I pushed him away for good?
  • Aug 22, 2012, 11:27 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    You are who you are. Do you really think you can change that? If it's to the point where he doesn't want to be with you anymore, I don't think you're ever going to change. You had many times to change so why are you realizing it now, when you've almost lost him, that you need to?

    I think you need to work on yourself, before you can be with anyone else.
  • Aug 22, 2012, 11:33 AM
    insekure
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace View Post
    You are who you are. Do you really think you can change that? If it's to the point where he doesn't want to be with you anymore, I don't think you're ever going to change. You had many times to change so why are you realizing it now, when you've almost lost him, that you need to?

    I think you need to work on yourself, before you can be with anyone else.

    Although I completely agree it hurts to hear this, he is my soulmate and in the beginning he knew that I had just gotten out of an 8 year relationship that was very abusive I just thought that he would work with me
  • Aug 22, 2012, 11:41 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by insekure View Post
    although I completely agree it hurts to hear this, he is my soulmate and in the begining he knew that i had just gotten out of an 8 year relationship that was very abusive I just thought that he would work with me

    We all hope that the next person we begin to share our lives with is the one. If you have that kind of mentality going into every relationship you're going to get let down a lot. Instead, take things slowly, one step at a time. Don't expect the person you're with to work out, instead be surprised if it does.

    So it didn't work out with him, there's plenty of guys out there. First things first though, you need to work on those insecurities. Nothing is more poisonous than jealousy and accusations.

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