every afternoon I go on an afternoon bus to home with a few of my friends. On the buds is a boys school and they like to show off all the time by singing and being loud etc . One of my friends is really pretty and she has kind of big boobs. Ever since she has broken up with her boyfriend all the guys on that bus just seem to want her. Guys aare so shallow. I have never met a guy that actually cared more about a girls personality, they only care about looks. I just feel like I'm never good enough and no one ever notices me. I'm not like hideously ugly or anything I'm OK looking nothing special but I just never seem to be able to get a boyfriend. I no that sounds really desperate but most of my friends and people younger than me have had boyfriends before and I have never had one. What is wrong with me? I'm so tired of men, all they care about is model type girls. I'm afraid that I will be alone forver and no one will ever like me. I'm not a hermit, I go out and I'm friendly, a bit shy but still nice. No one is ever interested , I'm just so tired of being alone. Wats wrong with me?? =( please help

I assume you are young, at that age guys do care about looks, and relationships never last too long. When guys start getting to the age where they start thinking about the rest of their lives, then they will start to treasure personality much more.

You will get male friends who will become attracted to you as they get to know you. Don't worry about it too much now.

I no I shouldn cause I am only a teenager but still it starts to get frustrating when everyone else has a boyfriend and you don't. I'm not ugly I'm normal so I don't see what the problem is , what's wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong with you, You're talking about adolescent boys, a lot of things are wrong with adolescent boys.

Feel comfort in the fact that when they get older and (slightly) more sensible, they will see your inner beauty.

Use this time to concentrate on your studies, become a better person, create strong friendships, these will all make you more attractive to a prospective suitor in the future.

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Originally Posted by smcthatgirl2

i no i shudnt coz i am only a teenager but still it starts to get frustrating when everyone else has a bf and u dont. im not ugly im normal so i dont see wat the problem is , wats wrong with me??

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Hey listen sweety!
Nothing is wrong with you. Im 27 and happily married.
When I was between the age of 15 - 19, I was mostly single, while all my friends had boyfriends...
These days they are mostly all single and some of them even messed up big-time... I meet my man when I was 19, before that I used to get hurt and annoyed wondering why my friends have boyfriend and I don't...
Now I know the reason... I respected myself... most of friends didn't!

Well first of all NOTHING is wrong with you :) I have the same problem as you though, it feels like guys don't even give me a second glance.so I guess I'm not much help,but just know that the right guy will come along!

Awww hunny! Nothing is wrong with u!! Most teenage boys are a nightmare, yes they are interested in pulling the prettiest girl with the biggest boobs and blah blah blah! I was a bit of an ugly duckling in skool and never got male attention but I was so busy having fun with the girls I didn't care! Boys do grow up and when they do they will realise its not all about looks! Its great when you meet someone who likes you for your mind and yes you will 1day. Don't take ne notice of the boys on the bus, it's the boys who always do there homework and that are always nice and friendy you want to go for, they grow up to be intelligent, sensible and will have a better job and more money and will always look yummy!
Don't no if this helps at all!! Hope it does!! Take care :) xxxxx

Take this from a boy. NOT ALL guys are shallow. Don't feel bad about your looks. I have a friend who's GF isn't hot, and there are a lot of girls he knows that have much bigger breasts than his GF. You said this bus picks up guys from an all boy's school? Maybe the just need some female company. Yes, a lot of guys like the girls with big boobs. To teenage guys (ahem) boobs are considered the best part of a girl. Try talking to one of the sensible guys. He may even tell his friends how great you are!

Nothing is wrong with you! I see many boys and girls that feel the same way, I teach high school. I know it may seem like everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend, but they don't. You should be happy with yourself and don't think for one second you are not something special, because you are! High school boys and even college boys sometimes are just plain dumb and haven't grown up! And as cliché as it sounds you will find someone who likes you for the right reasons. I have found that love comes when you are least expecting it. So focus on having a good times and school and everything will work out.

I know that not everyone has a girlfriend or boyfriend but it just feels like I'm the only one that never has. There must be something seriously wrong with me. Everyone I know has at least had one but me Ive had none! I'm not completely ugly , (I'm no model) but still I mean what's wrong with me?

Hey! Have you read what we've all been saying? Nothing is wrong with you! PLENTY is wrong with boys your age! Trust me I know! I USED TO BE ONE!

Hahaha yeah I no I no . Your probably right

I'm definitely right. You will find someone when you're a little older, I'm certain of it :)

Yes 15 yr old boys (no offence) but it's the truth! They are at that age, where there is just ONE thing on their mind.. just ONE

Just because you haven't been discovered doesn't mean you won't. Stop dwelling on it ,be patient and please learn to spell and write in English, for us older people.

Yep Tal is right, STOP dwelling on it and stop putting yourself down... ITS HIM AND NOT YOU

See! It must be right because we all agree! And that never happens!

Yeah I guess I've just got to forget him. It's going to be hard because I see him all the time but I have to try , it's killing me. Just knowing that someone couldn't care less about you hurts. But I've done nothing but be nice to him, he's got the problem and I just have to try and stop thinking about him

We just are. Why are women so deep?

You have to be positive and proactive. In this world you will always have to go out and get what you want. A positive attitude helps. Go workout, its good for you, and there are people there.