Okay so after weeks of the forced break we had from each other. She calls me last Saturday requesting we speak on skype. We get on talk for almost 2hrs then her mom calls her to watch a show together. Later that night she reveals finally that she just wishes she could change things with her life,school,job,body etc. We say our goodnights an go to bed. Sunday after church SHE CALLS ME again we talk for 10min about lunch plans. Later that night skype again we talk again shorter than last time but ended same time as yesterday she says she's going to watch her show 20min into it I get a text "I'm still thinking about you","I haven't forgot about you baby" so then my spirits are lifted for a moment I respond clearly with "I'm glad to hear you say that babes means alot". Hour-half later I get the most random text of my life from her "I FEEL SUFFOCATED AGAIN" What! Everything seemed as though it was finally getting better then boom that so I respond "I'm sorry you feel that way if ive done anything wrong please allow me to correct my mistake" woke up this morning no reply What!!

What was the reason for the first break up and did you to contact each other throughout the break up?

What are you doing! Why are you trying so hard to be with a girl that clearly is not ready for a relationship or commitment for that matter. In a healthy relationship there is no such thing as "suffocation".

Stop texting, answering calls or messaging this girl. Do you want to keep getting sucks back into this suffocation circle? If you do I'd be concerned.

Go find a girl that can breath.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

What was the reason for the first break up and did you to contact each other throughout the break up?

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The reason was we had made plans a year ago to get married,well everything was perfect we were both excited about that then she had a lot of really bad family problems,an that's when she just said look "I have alot going on right now an no one understands me an I just need to be alone from everyone,I don't want to take it out on you" and no it's been 3.5 weeks since then an we just broke silence Saturday

Seems like she still has issues.
Leave her alone. Tell her you two can talk again when she gets herself straightened out. In the meantime, go on with your life.
Did she ever explain to you what her problems are?