Ask Me Help Desk - Do men have a conscience?

Do men have a conscience?

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Of course some men do not stare at breasts and p[refer smaller perkier breasts. There are all types of people.
Did you know that some women find a man more attractive if he has money or power? Crazy eh?

Every guy does it, some more than others. It doesn't matter if they're dressed like they're asking for it, or not. She has to deal with it, or stay inside and hide away from everyone.

There's also nothing wrong with blatantly saying "Stop looking at my breasts". Why doesn't she stand up for herself?

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Originally Posted by noble761

If a women has size 34D breasts and is size 10 so average. But wears fully covered clothing from top to toe. And finds men staring at her breasts (men in her social circle.) What is she suppose to do?
It has been happening a lot and her menstrual cycles have changed causing her breasts to swell 3 weeks every month instead of the previous 1 week time duration during PMS.
Are men sensitive to this like dogs or something (without sounding crude?) Some men know they make her uncomfortable, some are even married. But they just continue to do it, and whilst they are talking to her - blaitaintly looking at them.
Others become ashamed. One 'respected' old man has p....d her off so much by doing it that she does not talk to him and instead of realising why she is upset he has developed an attitude with her because she is trying to ignore him?
Are some men so blind that they do no know or admit that they are lusting after womens breasts? What if they have wives with breasts that are actually larger than those of the women they are lusting after? MENS opinions would probably give a better understanding.

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I can't imagine why all the staring, comments, lusting - 34D on a size 10 is not big, not where I live.

I'm a size 2 or 4 and much larger, and I don't have the problems you are experiencing. Men look, yes, but I don't travel in a social circle where people stare.

What are you supposed to do? I've found that saying, "My eyes are up here" usually ends the problem.

Why do you think men are lusting after you (and your breasts)?

You cannot put all men in one category - "Do men have a conscience." It's unfair and judgmental.

"Stop looking at my breasts". Why doesn't she stand up for herself?[/QUOTE]

Obviously some women do not have that sort of a personality to be so confrontational as to say something so obvious.

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Originally Posted by noble761

"Stop looking at my breasts". Why doesn't she stand up for herself?

Obviously some women do not have that sort of a personality to be so confrontational as to say something so obvious.[/QUOTE]

I don't know it's obvious that women who are upset about something don't stand up for themselves.

If you are upset remove yourself from the situation OR say something. Those are your only two choices.

I think if it's one or two men, I'd consider it their problem and address it directly with the comments suggested by others. If it's your social circle, I'd consider whether they are generally kind of crass and immature - that could be the problem. Correct them and hope they mature and if they don't, move on to greener pastures with more mature people.

If it's strangers and you're of the impression that men generally stare at boobs all day, I think you should look at how you are presenting yourself. If you are wearing clothes that show a lot of cleavage, they are going to look at it - hard not to.

I had a friend in high school who made this complaint all the time - she was the only girl I knew who had this problem. She was also the only girl I knew who made a point of showing off her breasts by wearing her tops tight and low cut, holding her arms under her breasts as if to push them up and draw more attention to them, or literally sitting at a table so her breasts were resting on the table top, leaning across the table to talk to boys. The girls who were reasonably modest didn't have this problem... just my observation.

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Originally Posted by noble761

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Another person who is "smart" enough to change her original question to conform to the answers - but not "smart" enough to realize her question has been quoted in one of the answers.

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Originally Posted by noble761

Obviously some women do not have that sort of a personality to be so confrontational as to say something so obvious.

Well guess what, too bad! You don't stand up for yourself or do something about. Then you'd better learn to put up with your breasts being stared at.