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  • Aug 7, 2012, 02:58 AM
    meliss123
    Relationship advice, please!
    My boyfriend saw old (from before I knew him) inappropriate photos of me and got very mad because he knew they'd been sent to someone other then him. I'd really like to resolve this but I don't know what to do. He;s really bothered by this and said he doesn't think we could resolve this. He is a very "proud" guy, I know he'd be to "proud" to come running back to me, but I'd really just like to work this out, but like I said I do not know how we could over come this. He also says he doesn't see me the same anymore, he thinks less of me, and no longer trusts me, so someone please help.
  • Aug 7, 2012, 04:07 AM
    nsmith850
    Since you sent those photos, it kind of shows the real person you are. Now if this type of person isn't you then tell him, tell him it was mistake and that it won't happen again and that you only want him. Tell him its in the past and to forget it and stop being a baby. If he doesn't accept that then he's probably not worth your time. But if sending nude pictures is the type of girl that you are, tell him. And if he doesn't accept that then he is still not worth your time. Find someone who likes you for you. Just my opinion
  • Aug 7, 2012, 05:06 PM
    mmresd
    That is something internal with him, either he fixes it on his own, or he can torture himself with his own thoughts and make himself stay away from you. Those are called insecurities. Treat this as the break up that it is, if he comes back great, if he doesn't, then you will already started to move on.
  • Aug 8, 2012, 08:32 AM
    meliss123
    Adivice please!
    Well, my boyfriend and I recently had an argument on some hurtful things that I did to him, and said he can no longer trust me, for example one thing was that a boy was texting me, another was something from my past, I never cheated on him, Or tried to hurt him in anyway, but I guess with those thing I did. I want for him to be able to forgive me, and be able to trust me, but we just don't know where to start.He said that he want to try and work this out also, but that he doesn't know if he'll be abble to get over this.And for this reason he decided that we take a "break" the day after the "break" he asked me to go to his house to hang out when I got there he acted as though the "break" never happened and continued on as though were still together, he also wants me to go over again. Its confusing for me, and I don't know if he was to really continue the relationship, but I was willing to go because I wanted him to see that I'm will to do anything, to be with him, and show that I care a lot about him.
  • Aug 8, 2012, 08:42 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Trust does not come over night, it takes a long time to regain. He's probably confused too, or he's just weak and can't stand up for himself. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a guy that has no trust for you? You'll live your entire lives together watching your back, making sure you don't break it again.
  • Aug 17, 2012, 07:22 PM
    meliss123
    Relationship advice please!
    So my "boyfriend" and I had an argument(regarding my past, prior to meeting him) and we broke up, we've been broken up for a while now, but he still refers to me as his girlfriend and talks about out future together. He'll acknowledge that were not together. I'm confused, and it worries me, I'm putting in effort and he says we'll get back together, but I just don'y feel like he wants to. He's been distant lately but, when were alone he's sweet to me, but in public he doesn't want to embrace me like he used to. I'm scared that I'm putting in all this effort just to get hurt, and he'll not want to get back together.
  • Aug 17, 2012, 07:42 PM
    asompur
    If he won't even love you in public there's no reason to be with him. If you think he's going to hurt you again there's no reason to be with him. If both people aren't putting the same effort to be together there's no reason for them to be with each other.
  • Aug 17, 2012, 08:13 PM
    Wondergirl
    Please don't start a new thread with the same problem. They have been removed.

    There's only one thing to do. Ignore him, and go No Contact.
  • Aug 18, 2012, 08:22 AM
    talaniman
    Let the insecure fool go and get a more mature guy, after you have healed properly. Stop being his hangout buddy, or treat you like a make out buddy or friend with benefits. Stop all contact with him. Acting like nothing happened solves nothing, but is hurting, and confusing you. So don't allow him the benefit of your company without any commitment.

    Don't let him have his cake, and eat it too!
  • Aug 18, 2012, 08:31 AM
    KomalShahid
    If he really loves you he will have to understand . You promise him that it will not happen again and its very old . And u should have told him about this yourself. When in a relationship you should not hide anything and please don't be sad :) he will understand , he must be angry right now. Wait for some time :) prayers and love <3

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