Well I'm 24 been with my man for 7 yrs and love him so much when we started making love to him was so passionate we would make love every time we saw each other so he knew I had a high sex drive I thought he did too but as the years passed I have been noticing that we won't make love until were drunk or like ever 5 months and during all this I think maybe I need to spice it up so ill dress up for him and then he will just look the other way I must add I am not unattractive so now I have stopped dressing up because I get emberresd when he doesn't even notice me I'm not used to asking for sex but I feel that I have to because he won't even attempt it, when I don't ask I try to go down on him and he's all for that but he never wants to make me feel satisfied I am starting to feel like he doesn't love me, he's cheating, he thinks I'm ugly /nasty I would catch him ording porn on the internet myspacing with other girls so now I'm think maybe I shoud do the same but I know that would be wrong so for the last few months I have been fatisizing about other menand I even told him about it but I also told him I won't cheat on him and at night when he's sleeping I would sneak off to masturbate and I know he know what I'm doing because he always you were in their for a while well I would like to know what you think because I do not even know what to think

Talk talk and more talk
Talk to the guy.. get your answers!

You need to talk honestly with him and find out what's up. I've been married 16 years and still get as excited with my wife as when we first married. More in fact since she now is far better at many things and more relaxed with herself and me.

The best way to get answes is to ask. Talk and listen, find the truth and stop assuming.

Do not let a man, 7 years together or not, lesson yourself esteem. Not wanting you is his problem. This has nothing to do with you being unattractive. Why are you giving him sexual pleasure only to be left hanging? You are worth far more than this!! Discuss this issue with him and be firm in your concerns - demand answers. Would you rather hear the truth or live with lies? You're only 24 years old and have so much more life to live.
Take care of yourself first. Be confident and demand more from your life then what you are receiving from your partner. Having sex with you only when he is drunk is an insult. Do not give in to this.

Well it seems to me that his interests are elsewhere... you shouldn't have to beg the man your in love with to have sex with you... and sex isn't everything but this seems a little strange. I think you should talk to him about it and tell him to be honest with you about his feelings for you and then if nothings changes... do you