So me and my boyfriend gave gone out for a few months and I know he loves me because he always tells me that he does. Our friends have told him to kiss me while we were at school but he says no. Is he just not ready or what? I know that it should just happen when the time is right but when is it time? Help

No one other than him can tell you when it's time. He's probably not ready. Judging from the circumstances I'll say you're both pretty young. Take it slow.

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No one other than him can tell you when it's time. He's probably not ready. Judging from the circumstances I'll say you're both pretty young. Take it slow.

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Ok thanks and you we're kind of young we'er just going into seventh grade But we have both kissed someone before so

You are 12! Do your parents know you have a "boyfriend"? Do they know you are kissing? Do you really think that a 12 yr old really understands what love is?

What does dating at your age involve?

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You are 12! Do your parents know you have a "boyfriend"? Do they know you are kissing? Do you really think that a 12 yr old really understands what love is?

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Yes they do and they are fine with it

Have a chat to him and talk about the circumstances he might think your not ready,so talk communication is the best form of relationship

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Have a chat to him and talk about the circumstances he might think your not ready,so talk communication is the best form of relationship

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OK but I never see him unless it's at school because I really busy (I think that's how you spell it)

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What does dating at your age involve?

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For me sitting together and talking sometimes going to the movies which was me and my ex. For my ex holding hands with my "friend" and checking out and talking to other girls. Really just hanging out though

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yes they do and they are fine with it

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Sorry to hear that. I think parents that allow 12 year olds to date are being irresponsible parents.

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for me sitting together and talking sometimes going to the movies which was me and my ex. for my ex holding hands with my "friend" and checking out and talking to other girls. really just hanging out though

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This is not really "dating". And this is part of the problem. As you say its really just hanging out, and you don't make it clear whether its in a group or not. You are trying to grow up too fast and emulate adult behavior you see in the media before you are ready.

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Sorry to hear that. I think parents that allow 12 year olds to date are being irresponsible parents.

This is not really "dating". And this is part of the problem. As you say its really just hanging out, and you don't make it clear whether its in a group or not. You are trying to grow up too fast and emulate adult behavior you see in the media before you are ready.

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My concern is that a generation of girls are growing up believing that dating and sexual behavior are the ways to be "popular" and accepted. It's posted all the time. Dating at 12, sex at 15, burned out at 19.

There needs to be some other way to raise our daughters with more self confidence, less susceptible to peer pressure.

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My concern is that a generation of girls are growing up believing that dating and sexual behavior are the ways to be "popular" and accepted. It's posted all the time. Dating at 12, sex at 15, burned out at 19.

There needs to be some other way to raise our daughters with more self confidence, less susceptible to peer pressure.

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Totally agree, but the only way that's going to happen is if the entertainment media, leads the way.

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Totally agree, but the only way that's going to happen is if the entertainment media, leads the way.

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Or if there ever comes a day where people learn not to care what other people think.

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Or if there ever comes a day where people learn not to care what other people think.

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That's how I am because my older brothers and at school. My parents tought me to not care what others think of me and I don't. I've been made fun of about my last name and I love my last name! Why are people at my age such jerks

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That's how I am because my older brothers and at school. My parents tought me to not care what others think of me and I don't. I've been made fun of about my last name and I love my last name! Why are people at my age such jerks

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I think you're arguing against yourself.

Your concern is kissing your boyfriend.

My concern (and I can only speak for myself) is that you are trying to grow up too fast.

You don't think the boyfriend/kissing question is about peer pressure and fitting in?

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I think you're arguing against yourself.

Your concern is kissing your boyfriend.

My concern (and I can only speak for myself) is that you are trying to grow up too fast.

You don't think the boyfriend/kissing question is about peer pressure and fitting in?

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I honestly don't care if I fit in or not and no one is making him or me kiss each other I'm just wondering if he will. Sheesh people my parents respect my decisions and why don't other people! I'm telling my grandma that dying my hair black was my decision and if you don't respect that then fine. So everyone if you don't want to respect my decisions because of my age then fine I don't care

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I honestly don't care if I fit in or not and no one is making him or me kiss each other I'm just wondering if he will. Sheesh people my parents respect my decisions and why don't other people! I'm telling my grandma that dying my hair black was my decision and if you don't respect that then fine. So everyone if you don't want to respect my decisions because of my age then fine I don't care

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If you didn't care you wouldn't be posted. Your words don't match your actions.

So ask your parents how to get kissed. I know you're wonder if he will. I don't know. Ask him. Anyone else is just guessing.

I have no idea what your Grandmother and the color of your hair have to do with kissing someone.

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My concern is that a generation of girls are growing up believing that dating and sexual behavior are the ways to be "popular" and accepted. It's posted all the time. Dating at 12, sex at 15, burned out at 19.

There needs to be some other way to raise our daughters with more self confidence, less susceptible to peer pressure.

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Well if you're talking about my parents then my parents raised me just fine. My mom has many talks about peer pressure and that if I don't want to do something walk away. She said that even my best friends will probably try to convince me to do drugs or have sex etc. I learn a lot from my parents and I think after two kids, they should be great parents for the third (me) and they are. They aren't perfect parents no one is perfect but I couldn't imagine having any other parents because to me, my parents are amazing at what they do. Many of you who will comment are probably great parents too but you need to be a little looser with your kids (if you are a parent) just respect your kids' decisions and listen to what they have to say. Kids want parents who listen so if you parents follow my advice, good, if you don't want to that's fine too. You should respect your kids and other kids. Most kids also want their parent's respect. Again please listen to my advise to you even if I'm looking for advice and you might not be but still.

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Well if you're talking about my parents then my parents raised me just fine. My mom has many talks about peer pressure and that if I don't want to do something walk away. She said that even my best friends will probably try to convince me to do drugs or have sex etc. I learn alot from my parents and I think after two kids, they should be great parents for the third (me) and they are. They aren't perfect parents no one is perfect but I couldn't imagine having any other parents because to me, my parents are amazing at what they do. Many of you who will comment are probably great parents too but you need to be a little looser with your kids (if you are a parent) just respect your kids' decisions and listen to what they have to say. Kids want parents who listen so if you parents follow my advice, good, if you don't want to that's fine too. You should respect your kids and other kids. Most kids also want their parent's respect. Again please listen to my advise to you even if I'm looking for advice and you might not be but still.

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Fascinating - totally off topic but fascinating just the same.

You can turn this into topic you want to argue - it started as about kissing. Now it's about respect.

I have no idea what "... listen to my advise {advice} to you even if I'm looking for advice and you might not be but still."

What?