Help. I woke up to loads of texts from my ex boyfriend, saying how he feels proud of himself because he's ****ed it up for me and this lad. Ive been talking to him for a few week now, and when we first started talking, he obviously asked me what age I was, so I said I was two years older. Now, he knows I'm not, and I don't know what to say to him.

'Night.', that was the last text he sent me, so I just told him I was sorry, I don't know what to do. I really like this guy, and now he's probably never going to speak to me. What do I do?

How old are you and how old is he?
People don't like being lied to. If you like about something as simple as your age, what else would you lie about.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

How old are you and how old is he?
People don't like being lied to. If you like about something as simple as your age, what else would you lie about.

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You are going to think we're so pathetic, but I am 14, and he's 16. He knows everything about me, I have a self harm addiction and accepts me. And know he's gone, and its all my fault

You are too young to be dating and he could have been in trouble for dating you depending on where you live and whether your parents approved.
Are you getting help for your addiction?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You are too young to be dating and he could have been in trouble for dating you depending on where you live and whether or not your parents approved.
Are you getting help for your
addiction?

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Its society now a days, everyone is dating. However, we wernt dating, just good friends, but we had slight feelings for each other. What should I say to him, when he wakes up? And no, he can't possibly get done, unless we had sex which is illegal, and Im not the type that would go that far. And no, Im not getting help, and the number of hospital bands are getting uncountable now.

Well what you can do is CALL him and explain,
Why you did it.
And tell him your sorry.
He may understand but I know guys do not like it when girls lie, especially about their age, I have been in your same situation except way worse consider yourself lucky haha talk to a friend about it and laugh about it, what happened with me is when I was 13 I lied to a 19 year old and told him I was 17 and we made out... Lol but hey Ican cant, I looked pretty good and could pass for a 17 year old. But me and him made out using tongue and everything. And then I started to actually like him and so he gave me his number and me and him texted wow I remember this like it was yesterday, but he eventually found out and was mad at me! Hahah I never talked to him again and I found someone my own age and I have been with him ever since. c:

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Originally Posted by blndsundoll98

Well what you can do is CALL him and explain,
Why you did it.
and tell him your sorry.
He may understand but i know guys do not like it when girls lie, especially about their age, I have been in your same situation except way worse consider yourself lucky haha talk
to a friend about it and laugh about
it, what happened with me is when i was 13 i lied to a 19 year old and told him i was 17 and we made out... Lol but hey Ican cant, I looked pretty
good and could pass for a 17 year old. but me and him made out using tongue and everything. and then i started to actually like him and so he gave me his number and me and
him texted wow I remember this like it was yesterday, but he eventually found out and was mad at me! hahah i never talked to him again and I found someone my own age and i have
been with him ever since. c:

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That made me giggle somehow c: but like, I really like him. And he isn't texting back, because normal people are usually asleep at this time, and when I most need him, from feeling suicidal etc, he ain't there, duh! But yeah, I don't really know why I did it, I guess its because I wanted him to notice me..

How old did he think you are?

Most likely he is gone, the age difference is most likely a issue with him, and most guys prefer not to be with people who lie all the time,

Like all of us who make mistakes in judgment, which is ALL of us, all you can do is learn from them. If an apology doesn't work, you take what you learned and you move on.

Who doesn't lie? Anyone who says they don't lie is lying. But not all lies are of equal importance, and lying about your age is something you should have told the truth about a within a day or two of realizing you liked him.
Live and learn.

Plus it's probably just as much the age difference as the lie. I'll bet he never would have gotten involved with you had he known.

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Originally Posted by chelseasimms

Its society now a days, everyone is dating. However, we wernt dating, just good friends, but we had slight feelings for each other. What should I say to him, when he wakes up? And no, he can't possibly get done, unless we had sex which is illegal, and Im not the type that would go that far. And no, Im not getting help, and the number of hospital bands are getting uncountable now.

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I am going to blunt and you are probably not going to like it.

Stop worrying about boys. Start taking care of yourself. The last thing you need right now is a relationship adding more stress causing you to self-harm even more.

If you have an addiction, then you need to be careful not to cause situations where you can justify/rationalize acting on it. You need to learn healthier ways to get the 'fix' you need/want.

Where are your parents/guardians in all this? Why aren't you getting help?

If I seem to be ignoring your question, I am not. I am more concerned about you and your health than I am about what I sixteen year old male thinks. I want you to be healthy, happy and more stable so that you can enjoy relationships with others in the future.

You lying to him is the least of your problems. You have issues and he certainly can't help you with them. Your focus should be on your health, not him. Frankly you are not emotionally healthy nor old enough to be dating anybody.