I have found out, being 50, this past week that my brother was molested by a family friend. This friend had problems like this but my family never thought that it may of happened to one of us, as being male I was never even touched. I am finding it hard, knowing my brother was abused and having to deal with it, without my siblings and parents knowing. He has had Alcohol problems and has been good for 10 years. I am sure he has blanked them out and has had help. I recently have connected my father to him again, without knowing this. I really wish I hadn't.

Would love Ideas,

Dan

Who blanked what out? Your brother or the molester?

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Originally Posted by Dhanson

I have found out, being 50, this past week that my brother was molested by a family friend. This friend had problems like this but my family never thought that it may of happened to one of us, as being male I was never even touched. I am finding it hard, knowing my brother was abused and having to deal with it, without my siblings and parents knowing. He has had Alchol problems and has been good for 10 years. I am sure he has blanked them out and has had help. I recently have connected my father to him again, without knowing this. I really wish I hadn't.

Would love Ideas,

Dan

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What's the connection between the abuse and re-connecting with your father?