I was dating this guy and we cared about each other a lot. We had a long distance relationship. I was devastated that he ended it. So anyway, Maybe a month or so after he started dating this girl. Not sure why , but I started to get phone calls, some girl telling me all about him and her being together. I was sickended by it all because I was still sad about us not being together and I was pissed because here this girl calling me, throwing it in my face that they were together. Mean while this entire time my exboyfriend didn't know this was happening. I told him that I knew about him and her and he denied it saying I was crazy. (he didn't want me because he basically said he doesn't feel like he needs to tell his exgilrfriend what he currently doing. He didn't want to hurt me more.. )Ok so anyway a few months later (just recently) I decided to tell him again because I got another phone call. I had a lot of other personal thing going on in my life so I didn't need this anymore. ( One other things during the month I was receiving these calls I did go a little crazy calling him because I begin to get so upset about it all) It was making myself sick. So when I called him to tell him I got another call, he finally said he believed me because... something to do with someone telling him something on his myspace account. He siad he called his current girlfriend and told her that it better not be her or he will never speak to her again) I told him what was said.. now unless my friend are Phyic there no way I would know these details about them. The reason I am telling you this is she turned it around saying someone stalking her or it must be my friends. (REMEMEBER I LIVE LONG DISTANCE and my friends don't know her or his friends etc.. ).. so my question.. he wants to be friends with me but he still with this girl who hurt me really bad and I am heartbroken because I don't understand hwo he could be with her or more how I cared for a guy who now cares for soemone who played this cruel joke on me. What would you do?

I guess she won because now he thinks I am crazy which I guess was her plan.. its like yesterday he didn't care about my feelings, saying just get over it, and I talk to her because she not aggrevating me. It Just stinks and not sure how to handle this.. I am not going to speak to him for a while but when or if I do how can I get over the hurt that he decided to stay with such a mean girl.

Sorry to hear about what this guy is doing to you, but from the sound of it him and his girlfriends little trick on you is doing nothing for you in terms of your mental health. Firstly you need to cut ties with your ex boyfriend because once you do you will cut ties from his new girlfriend as well. This will help you see the world in a new perspective without him at all. You a have a great luxury in this breakup because you two are separated by distants so there will no awkward meetings.

Also if he decides to stay with this mean girl then let him if you believe you're a nice person trust me when I say you will meet someone else who will treat you as nicely as you will treat them.

read this and remember it: she is threatened by you. She's trying to boost her self esteem by making you feel like crap. She's insecure and immature.

well... unfortunate for him... as even if he's willing to put up with such nonsense now, it'll catch up to him. Anyone who has such poor self-esteem as this girl does is going to make his life hell, eventually.

on your side... all you can do is laugh as best you can at how pathetic it is. When she calls tell her you are sorry that she's insecure, a liar, and you hope he isn't thinking about you when he's in bed with her too often. Then hang up.

then if she calls back you can tell her that you're flattered with her obsession but you just don't find her that attractive. Click.

my wife had an ex who damn near became a stalker when we were dating. Hed call and be a moron. That last time he called I calmly told him I felt sorry for him. That it must be really sad to be so insecure. He never called back.

I know you are hurt about the breakup. People sometimes see what they want to see. I've put up with stupid behaviour out of "love"... it happens.

or maybe next time she calls talk a bit, let her be the snot she is and then tell her the conversation is being recorded. Would she like it on cd or tape...

I don't know. At one point we ended up changing numbers to get past the nonsense. Of course, he found a way to get her new one, but it eventually stopped after that last "talk" I had with him. It's a pain, but sometimes you need to do it.

she's crazy and he's in lust or love or clueless. Really, you are in a power position over her. She is threatened by you. Maybe because you were his before she was. Maybe because she sees how much he loved you or that he still values your friendship. She is an immature little child. Like I said... I will absolutely bet that in time, he will see that she is the one who is doing this.

and cut off all talk with him. Tell him she is disrupting your life and he's done nothing about it. As long as he tolerates being with a manipulative person you don't wish to hear from him. Period.

not that breaking off all contact with him completely isn't a bad idea in itself. Sad little girlfriend or not.

They deserve each other, and you desrve much better. Leave these nuts to their own misery.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

They deserve each other, and you desrve much better. Leave these nuts to their own misery.

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You said is one line what I didn't quite say, but should have, in several paragraphs.