I been wth him for 3 years now I love him with all my heart he hits on me when I say the wrong thing ori don't do what I'm told I know he will change he has did it before and I will not leave him

Lilly89,

Welcome to this wonderful site.

What is the compulsion to keep on the relationship if he 'hurts' or 'hits' you. By the way, what are your ages? Which country you are from?

Can you kindly answer these questions?

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Originally Posted by lilly89

I been wth him for 3 years now i love him with all my heart he hits on me when i say the wrong thing ori dont do what im told i know he will change he has did it before n i will not leave him

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Hello lilly:

You're WRONG. He WON'T change.. He'll HIT you for a while until he gets real pissed off, and KILLS you.

excon

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Originally Posted by lilly89

I been wth him for 3 years now i love him with all my heart he hits on me when i say the wrong thing ori dont do what im told i know he will change he has did it before n i will not leave him

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Who determines whether you said the wrong thing? I'm assuming it's him. That, however, is a side issue.

Why should he change? You've already said you will not leave him. You can go to counselling but if you are 100% sure no matter what he does you won't leave counselling will probably be a waste of time and money.

Abusive relationships that last offer something to each party - he likes to hit people and you don't mind being hit. If you didn't want him to hit you you would either call the Police or call the Police and then pack up and get out.

There is nothing else to say. It will only get worse.

EDIT: Concerning where the OP lives - this is not acceptable in ANY country.

He won't change. If you have kids, take them to a friend's house, family member, or even a hotel. Report the abuse to the local authorities, get a restraining order.

My grandma was in the same situation as you. She was lucky she got out when she did. He ended up killing his second wife that wouldn't leave because she loved him too much and believed he would change.

I hate these questions because they're so pointless. You come here and tell us he hits you, you know what he's doing is wrong (I sure hope) yet you say...

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Originally Posted by lilly89

"n i will not leave him"

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What are you even doing here? If you won't leave him then guess what, you're going to have to put up with being hit the rest of your life with him.

The only thing you're going to face with this is leave and find someone who doesn't hit you or stay and get hit. If leaving isn't an option, then stay and get hit.