Hii.. I am 19 and my girlfriend is 18. We have a great relationship and we are emotionally bonded with each other. Everythnig is great but only problem is sex. When ever we get on bed. She is confused what to do. She is like I don't know how to do that. You do whatever you like to do I won't stop you. I just don't want that I want that my girlfriend should also be physically involved in sex. But its like I am only the active partner in sex. What should I do?? Please help

Run away... run far and run fast.









But seriously... she is who she is, some people are great partners, some make you feel like you just committed necrophillia.

You take her as she is... because she may always bee that way, or she might not... but what you can't do is force her to be something she isn't.. or make her do anything she doesn't want to do.

If she learns or if she doesn't is all on her, and on her schedule, if she wants to, she will ask, if she asks then you help, if she doesn't want to then you have to be happy as things are or move on.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

But seriously...she is who she is, some people are great partners, some make you feel like you just committed necrophillia.

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Ten out of ten - just when I thought you couldn't top yourself, you did!

Are you her first? If so she might not yet be comfortable physically and even emotionally with sex. Given how young you two are and based on your description she seems somewhat naïve and embarrassed. Have you tried just talking to her about it?

Teach her what you like. Show her what to do. 18 is a little young to "make love"?

My first g/f was the same way. As I was, I'm sure. You can't be great at something you're new to, which I am guessing she is.

Overtime you work with each other, you learn each other, you communicate. In time, you will learn and build as a couple. What I recommend right now is to talk to her and take it slow. Learn together, its more fun that way anyway.

Sex is an activity of duality (or more if chosen :)) Forget what you think you know. Start-over, learn with her.

Ey buddy! Its great to hear that your relationship is stable and that you love your girlfriend!

Its pretty common that girls don't understand sex, to be honest.
I too am 19, my boyfriend is 20.
Our sex life is honestly amazing, but only because we are able to talk about it.
When we first started having sex, I'll admit, I was slightly bashful and he lead the way... the biggest mistake girls make is believing that sex is always good for guys.

You should talk to her :) Its okay! Be gentle with your words, but TALK ABOUT IT. Tell her that you want to try something different like maybe having her dominate you a little. Make sure you get her super hyped about sex, give her hot foreplay so that she can't help but get a little rowdy :)

Sometimes girls just need a little guidance, even if you're telling use to guide you a little ;)

When you first learned to ride a bike did you jump on, speed down the street, jump over ramps, do wheelies, or did you have training wheels, were you cautious and a bit scared, unsure?

Sex is a natural thing, but that doesn't mean that everyone just jumps into it knowing what to do. A lot of sex is learned talking to your partner, finding out what he/she likes, getting enough confidence to try new things, or let yourself give in to your desires.

A good partner talks to his partner. A good partner leads a bit if he's more experienced. Fact is, you're both kids, and I'd bet you're not an expert either. So why not learn together. Maybe she feels the same way you do, which is why she's not more into sex.