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  • Aug 14, 2012, 08:22 PM
    Dhivyaa308
    Shall I drop my love for the sake of my parents?
    Am 21 and my friend is 22.We both got recruited in a top IT company.Different caste.we both know each other for 4 years.He loves me a lot and proposed me 2 years ago.But I acted telling let us be good friends because my family is too orthodox(they ll even go to d range of committing suicide because of d shame that am in luv).But I love him a lot now and feeling sick .I do not have the guts to tell to my parents.My parents are seeing groom for me.Can I lead a happy life by choosing the partner of my parents choice? Will love bloom once again between us? Will I be able to forget my friend? Or shall I start loving my friend and lead life the way I lik?
  • Aug 14, 2012, 11:19 PM
    Kp818
    Just continue talking with him because at d end of d day you going to sleep next to your husband not your parents!!
  • Aug 15, 2012, 06:06 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    He asked you to marry him 2 years ago, what has happened over those two years, do you still see each other ? Does he still have those feelings ?

    What does he think about you marry someone else.

    Personally you don't really love him, if you did, you would be brave enough to tell your parents. But since you will not fight for him, it must not be true love.

    A person in true love would not even consider marry someone else
  • Aug 15, 2012, 06:13 AM
    joypulv
    I won't presume to claim that you can't possibly love him if you didn't confront your parents with your love. If we in other parts of the world find it hard to believe that parents would commit suicide over this, it doesn't mean it wouldn't happen, and we can't imagine the effect that would have on the child.
    A lot of us here are in the US and Canada, and we mostly will say 'Of course you go with your love for your friend.' But only you can answer this. If it means leaving the area and being shunned and disowned by family, can you handle that? I would still say yes, you can, you are an adult, and you have a life to live of your own. Also many parents relent when babies start being born.

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