Me and my boyfriend been together for 4 years. But since 4 weeks ago we are in long distance relationship because we have to go back to our own country after finishing our college. We talked everyday but I feel he's become colder to me. I'm so worried that he will get another girl soon and leave me. I got so panicked and ask him to break with me saying that I burdened him and it's tiring to love him more than he loves me. He said I love him overwhelmingly and he thinks long distance relationships won't work. As soon as he said that I told him I want to break up with him. He just accept it and don't fight to get me back. But now I regret breaking up with him. Should I ask him back?and how?

So you broke up with him because it's tiring to love him, yet you want to get back with him? What kind of backwards logic is that?

You broke up with him, it wasn't meant to be. Move on with your life and stop letting him hold you back.

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

So you broke up with him because it's tiring to love him, yet you want to get back with him? What kind of backwards logic is that?

You broke up with him, it wasn't meant to be. Move on with your life and stop letting him hold you back.

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Sometimes it's hurting knowing that I love him more than he loves me. He said he never reach that level on anyone. And in relationship is normal one loves more than the other. Am I selfish,because I just say I want to break up without asking his opinion..
I expect him to fight back for me then I know that he still wants me, but he just accept it..

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Originally Posted by Kendallkarin

Sometimes it's hurting knowing that I love him more than he loves me. He said he never reach that level on anyone. And in relationship is normal one loves more than the other. Am I selfish,because i just say i want to break up without asking his opinion..
I expect him to fight back for me then i know that he still wants me, but he just accept it..

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Why are you making this so difficult? He accepts breaking up because he does not love you in a way that makes him want to fight, so why are you fighting?

Why give yourself to someone who does not want to give themselves back. Move on, enjoy your life don't drag yourself down over this person.

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

Why are you making this so difficult? He accepts breaking up because he does not love you in a way that makes him want to fight, so why are you fighting?

Why give yourself to someone who does not want to give themself back. Move on, enjoy your life don't drag yourself down over this person.

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The main thing that made me think of breaking up is I'm scared he will get a new girlfriend first and leave me. That's what made me panicked and other things came to my mind.
I told him I regret this and he mad and told me to clear up my head first..

So leave him alone and clear upyour head and see if he misses you enough to fight for you. Learn to talk instead of panic.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

So leave him alone and clear upyour head and see if he misses you enough to fight for you. Learn to talk instead of panic.

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I don't want to be blamed ruining this relationship. And I don't want him to be mad at me. He's my best friend and we're like family already, even his family considered me as one. He also said that I'm the only one he's close to,nobody else is. He's introvert and rational, I'm the opposite of that.
I'm not ready losing him now. I'm scared being alone also.

Take time to clear your head, and let the dust settle. Maybe that's what you need is the time alone, or with a girl friend. You know, cry, laugh, eat ice cream.

You panicked once already and that's no fun,so relax and deal with yourself for a change. Desperate, needy, and insecure are not traits of a healthy relationship.

Try cool, calm, collected, and in control of yourself.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Take time to clear your head, and let the dust settle. Maybe thats what you need is the time alone, or with a girl friend. You know, cry, laugh, eat ice cream.

You panicked once already and thats no fun,so relax and deal with yourself for a change. Desperate, needy, and insecure are not traits of a healthy relationship.

Try cool, calm, collected, and in control of yourself.

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Yeah, that's true.
He said to clear up my head and he won't reply for several days. I haven't contacted him till now. When is the right time to talk to him?

Wow. I just got him back..
I really got to learn to handle myself.
Like talaniman said " Try cool, calm, collected, and in control of
yourself."
Thanks a lot guys for your advices..