Please help me I am currently 6 months pregnant husband comes from a very disfunctional family when he was younger all they did was play up on one anther and I don't think they cared for their children much at all both very selfish people. My husband has always had a little insecurities in our relationship even though there is no need I am a loyal wife always have been 100% loyal to him. I habe found since his world came crashing down 4 weeks ago when he lost his job his licence and his mother disowned him he wnt into a dark hole for 2 day didn't talk then all of a sudden is coming at me with all these crazy accusations that I have cheated he no longer talks to his only friend cause he thinks something has happened between us which is complete balonie help me please I don't no what to do as I currntly have a 3 year old and one on the way I love his to death I pick my brain over and over again why is he doing this to me basically all comes down to he wants me to say I have cheated I'm not going to addmitt to something that I haven't do just cause its what he want s to hear help me

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Originally Posted by 6 months pregna

please help me i am currently 6 months pregnant husband comes from a very disfunctional family when he was younger all they did was play up on one anther and i dont think they cared for their children much at all both very selfish ppl. my husband has always had a little insecurities in our relationship even though there is no need i am a loyal wife always have been 100% loyal to him. i habe found since his world came crashing down 4 weeks ago when he lost his job his licence and his mother disowned him he wnt into a dark hole for 2 day didnt talk then all of a sudden is comming at me with all these crazy accusations that i have cheated he no longer talks to his only friend cause he thinks something has happened between us which is complete balonie help me please i dont no waht to do as i currntly have a 3 year old and one on the way i love his to death i pick my brain over and over again why is he doing this to me basically all comes down to he wants me to say i have cheated im not going to addmitt to something that i havnt do just cause its what he want s to hear help me

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He needs to talk to someone, a professional. Yes, it sounds like his world did come crashing down around his ears. He needs help getting through this hard time in his life.

How/why did he lose his license?

If he won't talk to someone, then you need to speak to someone for your own peace of mind.

He's lashing out, and you're the closest person to him so you're getting the full brunt of his anger. It's not your problem, it's his - but he's turning it into yours.

You need to be firm with love that you will not accept him talking to you like that.
Tell him he is taking his anger out on you.
He needs to see someone for this

Your husband needs help. It sounds like his world has turned upside down and he is pushing away the only things he has left in his life that bring him joy (i.e. You obviously, and his best friend). He's being self destructive and needs someone to pull him out of this dark place before he looses everything dear to him.

If he's not willing to go to a therapist, are you and him religious? Maybe him and/or you talking to a pasture/preacher would be more comfortable for him?

Has he ever seen anyone for depression and/or anxiety? This big of a life change can really effect a persons ability to cope with life itself (obviously). A family doctor can and will be more than willing to talk to their patients about this matter to a certain extent. If it's within their comfort zone of dealing with, they will either prescribe what they seem best fits or advise different counseling.