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  • Aug 12, 2012, 06:37 PM
    Mirra
    Is this really over?
    I have been with my boyfriend 2 years and 7 months. This 20th Aug, it's our 8 months. Recently, I broke up with him. Last few days, we were okay. On that certain day, I texted him on what's app. But then, when I checked his status, he blocked me. I was so curious. So last Saturday, I hang out with him like how we used to be together. All of a sudden, a girl texted him. She is a 14 year old girl. So I ask him, who is that? He told me the truth, someone whom he met from the tuition class. So I cried... and surprised. Then I asked, are breaking up? He didn't want to tell me. So I consider it a yes. But still, I was not that satisfied with the reason.

    When I took all my things at his house, he cried and cried and he keeps on hugging me. I also cried. I asked him one more time, are we breaking up? Then he said to me, "The truth is, it is difficult for me to let you go!" then I asked why do you want to do this? Then he said I put too much control on him, he wants freedom. So I asked him, "Is our relationship over?" He answered, "Please let me cool down and let me think." I cried and cried. I couldn't stop crying. He even told me that I was the first girl who is having long relationship with him. He asked me to wait for him and he will come back to me. But then the problem right now is I can't be patient.

    All the things I do daily, everything reminds me of him, because we were always together. He even told me that, he still loves me. We were together for almost 3 years, but why did we break up just like that? So now, I need some advice. I'm so depressed right now.
  • Aug 12, 2012, 06:57 PM
    odinn7
    So I have to ask... how old are both of you?
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:08 PM
    Mirra
    We are 19 yrs old. But he's 1 year younger than. I'm older than him
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:15 PM
    talaniman
    Let me understand, you broke up over a 14 year old girl?
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:17 PM
    Mirra
    I forgot to tell this to you guys. When we went to our college for the first time, many people even my friends and his friends thought we were siblings because we have that same faces. Some people told me, if two couples are having the same faces, it means that they are meant to be with each other. I don't know for you guys.
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:19 PM
    odinn7
    So this 19 year old guy is going after a 14 year old girl ?
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:22 PM
    Mirra
    When I ask him why do you want to go over a 14 yr old girl? He told me, "me and her, we are not couple, we are just friends." he said he doesn't want her, but he said he wants to relax and cool down for awhile, that's why he texted that girl.
  • Aug 12, 2012, 08:53 PM
    talaniman
    Giving him the benefit of a doubt, maybe this KID gave him attention and now he wants to explore and experiment with other females, and doesn't want to cheat on you and plans to return once he is done, or so he thinks. OR wants you to think.

    The other alternative is unthinkable for me, BUT whatever is going through his head YOU better NOT let a broken heart make you blind to whatever is going on. I get suspicious when I get dumped but they promise to come back. SO SHOULD YOU!!

    Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, DISAPPEAR, and do your thing while you get over it!

    You are hurt now but I wouldn't be a part of some one's fall back plan, in case his experiment fails, and his exploring leads to nowhere.
  • Aug 12, 2012, 09:07 PM
    Mirra
    Base on my stories, does he still loves me?
  • Aug 12, 2012, 09:48 PM
    talaniman
    Not enough to stay with you or work things out in an honest way. Matter of fact he seems to be stringing you along for his own selfish purpose so my answer is NO.

    His words and actions don't match, or add up. Do they to you? That's the shock and hurt talking isn't it?
  • Aug 13, 2012, 04:35 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mirra View Post
    base on my stories, does he still loves me?


    No.
  • Aug 15, 2012, 12:35 AM
    Mirra
    I still have feelings for him. Very strong :( on Tuesday, he texted me, "I love you." I knew this could be happening. But atill, my feelings are still confused. I really love him so much. I don't know what to do. 2 years we have been together... I just can't move on :'( It's really hard for me.

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