I had just now a break up frm 3 yrs 8 mnth relationship.. he asked me for it.. I can't live without him.. I mean it really.. yestrdy whole night I cried.. still crying.. I have no one to share this.. the reason that he left is that I never satisfied him and he wasn't happy with me.. I came to know all this yestrdy only.. it was a shock.. till that time I thought evrythng was fine.. suddenly it all changed.. he is ready to be a good life time friend.. but I can't adjust to it.. I am that much deeply and madly in love with him.. I tried a lot to recover.. but cant.. and I feel like dying.. I want him back.. otherwise I won't survive.. I see him in evrythng I do.. evrythng is filled with his memories.. I can't take him out of my mind.. our relation was a smooth one.. before 2 week he said to me that he can't live without me.. but suddenly evrythng changed.. I want him back..
Please sumbody help me..

If he doesn't want you, he's not worth it. That's probably not what you want to hear but its true. Break ups are always hard, but have some friends over for a movie night, or just curl up with ben and jerry's and a good movie. Remember you don't need him in your life to have a good time, and eventually you will be able to love someone else just as much if not more as you did him. Only time can heal the heart.

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Originally Posted by need_u

i had just now a break up frm 3 yrs 8 mnth relationship..he asked me for it..i can't live without him..i mean it really..yestrdy whole nite i cried..still crying..i hav no one to share this..the reason that he left is that i never satisfied him and he wasnt happy with me..i came to knw all this yestrdy only..it was a shock..till that time i thought evrythng was fine..suddenly it all changed..he is ready to be a gud life time frnd..but i can't adjust to it..i am that much deeply and madly in luv with him..i tried a lot to recover..but cant..and i feel like dying..i want him back..otherwise i wont survive..i see him in evrythng i do..evrythng is filled with his memories..i can't take him out of my mind..our relation was a smooth one..before 2 wk he said to me that he can't live without me..but suddenly evrythng changed..i want him back..
Plz sumbody help me..

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Believe it or not - your life will go on without him. A lot of people go through bad relationships, absolute heartbreak - and they go on.

As far as "wanting him back" - you can't make anyone love you. I have no idea why the relationshp went bad in two weeks.

Do you? What does he mean when he says he was unhappy and you never satisfied him?

Thank you for your reply.. it is really good to know that sum1 cares for me.. yestrdy he called me and said he don't want a break up.. but also he is not ready to keep commitment on this relation.. he also said that he can be happy either with my presence or not.. both way he'l be happy.. wat he need is that I should nt keep any commitment on it.. he want to be alone for sumtime.. he said he will try to marry me.. but he is not sure that he can love me as before.. I tried my best to forget him.. but I want his love back.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Believe it or not - your life will go on without him. A lot of people go through bad relationships, absolute heartbreak - and they go on.

As far as "wanting him back" - you can't make anyone love you. I have no idea why the relationshp went bad in two weeks.

Do you? What does he mean when he says he was unhappy and you never satisfied him?

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I'm sure that he wasn't happy all these days.. he had such a care and lùv for me.. he was kind of madly in love with me.. at that time if a make a small mistake he will react so badly.. he says at that time I don't giv importance to his love. but reality is that I love him all the time in same amount.. but he sum times love me madly and othr time hate me for not luving him the way he want.. all I know now is that I can't live without his love. I miss him.. hope you undrstnd

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Originally Posted by Kirkirkat

If he doesn't want you, he's not worth it. That's probably not what you want to hear but its true. Break ups are always hard, but have some friends over for a movie night, or just curl up with ben and jerry's and a good movie. Remember you don't need him in your life to have a good time, and eventually you will be able to love someone else just as much if not more as you did him. Only time can heal the heart.

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But I know he too loves me.. he is saying all because he is mad at me.. but I don't know why he is so.. I can't let him go. I love him so deeply.. :(

To be blunt: your love sounds so exclusive and all engulfing that maybe you are too needy and clingy and don't have enough of a life of your own. Nothing kills love faster than hanging on every little word, thing, action of someone else. What do you do outside of your relationship with him?

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Originally Posted by joypulv

To be blunt: your love sounds so exclusive and all engulfing that maybe you are too needy and clingy and don't have enough of a life of your own. Nothing kills love faster than hanging on every little word, thing, action of someone else. What do you do outside of your relationship with him?

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Last 3yrs 8 mnths we were almost together always.. we were living a single life 2gthr.. we were in same class.. always travel 2gthr.. we would select evrythng 2gthr.. almost evrythng in my life has some significance of him.. I only share my happiness and sorrows only with him.. we used to call and text evrytime.. almost evry sec of my life known to him.. we were that much deeply in love.. hope you undrstd

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Originally Posted by need_u

last 3yrs 8 mnths we were almost together always..we were living a single life 2gthr..we were in same class..always travel 2gthr..we wud select evrythng 2gthr..almost evrythng in my life has some significance of him..i only share my happiness and sorrows only with him..we used to call and text evrytime..almost evry sec of my life known to him..we were that much deeply in luv..hope u undrstd

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You have no choice here - you cannot make someone love you, date you, do just about anything else.

You are going to have to make new friends. I think it's a mistake to invest 3 years (and 8 months) in a relationship without some sort of commitment UNLESS, of course, you are very young.

Yes, you WERE that much deeply in love. Apparently you still are and he is not - and you cannot do anything to make him love you again.

There is no other choice but to go on without him.

Sometimes I think my love so mad.. obsessive

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Originally Posted by need_u

sumtimes i think my luv so mad..obsessive

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I think we all agree with that - and I think your obsession may very well have doomed this relationship.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

You have no choice here - you cannot make someone love you, date you, do just about anything else.

You are going to have to make new friends. I think it's a mistake to invest 3 years (and 8 months) in a relationship without some sort of commitment UNLESS, of course, you are very young.

Yes, you WERE that much deeply in love. Apparently you still are and he is not - and you cannot do anything to make him love you again.

There is no other choice but to go on without him.

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Isn't there any way that I could get him back..

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I think we all agree with that - and I think your obsession may very well have doomed this relationship.

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I will do anythng to get him back.. he just cald me nw.. talked just as we were before.. I pray that evrythng to be resolvd soon