I have step-children from my previous marriage ,my wife passed away due to Breast Cancer. I Remarried , every time my grand-daughter comes over , which is from my step-daughter, My Wife has something negative to say about her. She is only your step ,why do you act like she is your Blood ? I want her and my step-children to be in my and their life---- Question is , Is that wrong , wife thinks I shouldn`t have any thing to do with them --- Is this right or am I wrong ?

Personally I think you are right... they have always known you... and what harm is it anyway?

My opinion, is the new wife needs to go. I don't think I could live with someone who would treat a child badly, no matter who that child is.

She is entitled to her own opinion. But she really needs to grow up and be an adult. And adults Don't pick on children.

You need to tell new wife to keep her mouth shut or she has to be gone from the home when grandchild is there.
Child needs to be treated the same, or it makes them feel bad

She is so wrong I wish I could tell her off personally.

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Originally Posted by markflanagan46

I have step-children from my previous marriage ,my wife passed away due to Breast Cancer. I Remarried , every time my grand-daughter comes over , which is from my step-daughter, My Wife has something negative to say about her. she is only your step ,why do you act like she is your Blood ? I want her and my step-children to be in my and their life---- Question is , Is that wrong , wife thinks I shouldn`t have any thing to do with them --- Is this right or am I wrong ?

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I'm a stepmother and a step grandmother. I don't really know the circumstances of other people who post here.

The "why do you act like she is your blood ..." language is certainly out of line and I'm not blaming the victim here BUT the post makes me question why your wife resents this one child out of an entire "step" family. How do the stepchildren and step grandchildren feel about and treat your second wife? How do they interact?

I have no sense of the age of this step grandchild, and I can see this from both sides.

I was married to a widower, hosted Thanksgiving dinner and had a semi-hysterical child because I used her mother's china. Her mother had been dead for over 6 years. I know it's not the same thing but sometimes the questions and concerns and resentments have to be worked out.

Needless to say, she's not my favorite stepchild.

I'd have to agree with everyone else that has posted. Your new wife needs to realize that they are as much, if not more, a part of your life as she is.

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Originally Posted by DsprtCfsd

I'd have to agree with everyone else that has posted. Your new wife needs to realize that they are as much, if not more, a part of your life as she is.

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Did you read what I posted? Everyone's answers are colored by personal experience.

You apparently have a great deal of difficulty with your wife and her children and your children - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...er-692464.html.

I don't think the "new wife" needs to know that the children are "as much, if not more" a part of his life than she is because I think loyalty to your life partner comes first. I'm not saying ignore your children. I think loyalty goes first to the wife - or stay single and don't drag someone into this situation.