Hey peeps...

Okay I really need some advice..?

I'm 21 and started going out with this guy for four months now I really fell in love with him
But I am not sure if he did, we go out and he seems to always do things that I always wanted to do with a guy... this is like my first real relationship and sometimes I think he is just going out with me because he wants to sleep with me... knowing I am a virgin and want to be till my wedding night...

Well you have been 4 months with this guy, so have you spoke about your wish to remain a virgin till your wedding night?

We speak about it all the time but most times he says its okay if we do sleep together before marriage because we will get married one day! I also sometimes get the feeling he is playing me because when we togather he do not answer his phone but when he checks there is always miss calls and he tells me its his mother or sister and one day we were together and some one called and he answered the phone and said HELLO Sexy! And he normally says that to me when I call I never asked about it because I don't want to be insecure but he kept telling me that it is a good friend of his...

I don't know what to think or what to believe anymore??

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Originally Posted by Dqueen

We speak about it all the time but most times he says its okay if we do sleep together before marriage coz we will get married one day!
i also sometimes get the feeling he is playing me coz when we togather he do not answer his phone but when he checks there is always miss calls and he tells me its his mother or sister and one day we were together and some one called and he answered the phone and said HELLO Sexy! and he normally says that to me when i call i never asked about it coz i dont want to be insecure but he kept telling me that it is a good friend of his....

i dont know what to think or what to believe anymore???

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Does he pressurise you to do things you don't want to do yet?

It took me 3 months to sleep with my hubby for the first when we started dating, he never once tried or insisted we do something I didn't want too, even though I knew he was dying too. He even said he respected my decission.

Well he doesn't force me I think I give in because of the way I fell for him as I said it is my first real relationship and we were going out for two months when he first fingered me (he was the first guy I allowed to do such things) and he always say he loves to please me because it makes him happy to see me happy... I don't know if maybe I gave him the wrong impression by allowing him to go so far... he also knows he is my first but said that the first time a virgin gets fingered she bleeds and I didn't sometimes I think he doubts me...

Everyone is different. If you did any form of dancing this could have done so, or if you use tampons.

All I can say, is I was in a similar position as you are now when I first meet my hubby. The choice is yours dqueen not his - noones, but yours, always remember that.

Don't do anything just so he doesn't get pissed off, always remember that you can only lose your virginity once and after all you want it memorable :)

Well thank you so much i feel a bit at eaze now... if you dont mind me asking how long did you go out with your hubby before yours got married....?

To be honest i really love this guy and i never feel this way before the way i feel for him
i guess thats also the reason why i let him go that far! i feel so comfortable with him and he really makes me so happy and i just love the way he makes a fuss about me no one ever done the things he has done for me.... and i really do want him to be my first mainly coz he is so gentle but i am so scared mainly for the fact that he was in like 6 serious relationships and he broke 4 girls virgins and as he told me sometimes things just don't work out.... What if after wards things don't work out .... What if he dont marry me?

We were together for 6 years before we got married. We have now been married almost 3 years. So we been together a long time. I didn't wait until we got married thou to take our relationship to the next step.

Your boyfriend had 4 girlfriends who were virgins? How long after they let him sleep with them did he break up with them?
How old is your boyfriend?