I am married and our marriage just sucks we fight have a good day fight the next etc. We have 3 kids. I have stayed with my husband for the kids. We don't sleep together and rarely have any sex. I have spent ten years feeling like I'm nobody to him. Yet I stay because my kids love him. I'm completely bored and no matter how much we try we come back to fighting :( yea it hurts a lot. So in the last few months I have begun talking to an old guy friend and all the sudden I am excited to be alive. This friend and I share many memories. He was in love with me before but I was in a relationship and shot him down. He tells me that he thought of me all through the years. When I left my ex I went to my friends but sadly he had moved. Now I can't get him off my mind. I'm enjoying the attention and laughs that I never get from my husband. I feel confused now I want to try things with my friend but am still thinking stay for the kids. I am a good person this friend and I have never done anything in fact he has no idea how I feel. Should I walk away from ten years of blah for the excitement of someone who knows me and wants to have fun? My husband is a good father but a horrible match for me.no matter what I've done it never goes far. Now suddenly I'm awake and feeling that loving feeling ugh what do you think?

Go for your friend. You said it yourself you actually enjoy life when you talk to him. Your kids will be fine, yes at first they'll be confused, hurt, maybe a liitle mad but parents separate all the time and some day they will understand it was for the best. You deserve to be happy and to be with someone that appreciates you. It's time for a new beginning and I think your husband would agree. Honestly it sounds like you could still be friends it doesn't sound like it would be a messy separation. So talk to your husband tell him how you feel. Good luck!

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Originally Posted by beaner78

I am married and our marriage just sucks we fight have a good day fight the next ect. We have 3 kids. I have stayed with my husband for the kids. We don't sleep together and rarely have any sex. I have spent ten years feeling like I'm nobody to him. Yet I stay because my kids love him. I'm completely bored and no matter how much we try we come back to fighting :( yea it hurts alot. So in the last few months I have begun talking to an old guy friend and all the sudden I am excited to be alive. This friend and I share many memories. He was in love with me b4 but I was in a relationship and shot him down. He tells me that he thought of me all thru the years. When I left my ex I went to my friends but sadly he had moved. Now I can't get him off my mind. I'm enjoying the attention and laughs that I never get from my husband. I feel confused now I want to try things with my friend but am still thinking stay for the kids. I am a good person this friend and I have never done anything in fact he has no idea how I feel. Should I walk away from ten years of blah for the excitement of someone who knows me and wants to have fun? My husband is a good father but a horrible match for me.no matter what I've done it never goes far. Now suddenly I'm awake and feeling that loving feeling ugh what do you think?

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I think there is a difference between infatuation and love. It's a mistake to leave one relationship and walk into another.

Talk to your husband. If you want to separate, then separate for yourself, not for another man.

If your marriage is so bad, leave it but do it because the marriage is not working, not for an "old friend" kind of thing.