Okay so my boyfriend cheated on me once and we've been together 10month but this was recently with the person that really likes him, he says he doesn't like her and there's nothing there but she's one of his close friends, I don't really like them hanging out is that wrong?

There is no relationship future with someone who can't be trusted. He cheated once, he will do it again. You are having a gut reaction to this situation, and I think you should pay attention to it.

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okay so my boyfriend cheated on me once and we've been together 10month but this was recently with the person that really likes him, he says he doesn't like her and there's nothing there but she's one of his close friends, I don't really like them hanging out is that wrong?

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I highlighted what I see as red flags in your question.

The only defense I could see for him is if it was a single quick kiss. She grabbed him and planted it on him before he had a chance to stop her and he reacted immediately by telling her to stay away from him. Doesn't sound like that is what happened.

He did this 'recently'. He has been with you for months. You have an understanding that you are a couple and intimacy (kissing, making out, etc.) with other people is cheating. He cheated. He didn't stop and think about the trust he was destroying.

He doesn't like her and there is nothing there. So he cheated with someone who he doesn't care about. He used her for reasons of his own. The other female and her reasons do not matter in this. His motivations and reasoning is all that should count. Apparently he decided it would serve his needs to do what he wanted when and with whom he wanted to do it. He destroyed the trust in your relationship with someone he doesn't care about. He threw everything away on whim.

At best, he has no self-restraint and on some level gives very little value to your relationship and your feelings. At worst, he is playing both of you. He admits to you that he used her (definition of doing something with someone you have no feelings for.) I wonder if he is telling her that he has no feelings for you and that your relationship is over but he is afraid of how you will react if he leaves you (or a variation.)

I wouldn't be too certain that this was his only indiscretion. I doubt it will be his last. If you stay with him and believe the story he is telling, then he will know that he can keep playing games and you won't do anything. At the same time, you will be spiraling down into a pit of insecurity questioning who he is with, what he is doing, where you messed up, how you can fix everything on your own, etc.

I think you should let them hang out while you walk away from him with your head held high and your self-respect intact. Do not allow his behavior to cause you to question yourself. His cheating had everything to do with him and nothing to do with you.

Good luck.

You have every right to be mad and if he cared he wouldn't still be hanging out with her out of respect for u