My partner and I have been together for 3 and a half years, an lived together from the very beginning of our relationship. I'm 19 and he's 23, the time we've had together has been amazing and I love him to pieces.. to start with I was the embarressed one, didn't really want to do anything in front of him, he seemed like he didn't mind what he did in front of me, until about 7 months ago, I asked him why he never touched himself in front of me and why he was always so secret about himself in general, I'm more than happy to do anything sexually in his presence, but I just can't get him to do what I want, I'm not trying to control him, he just says he feels awkward, I can't understand why. Please someone, some tips on how to get him ot of his shell would be fantastic

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Originally Posted by Miss_InTrouble

My partner and i have been together for 3 and a half years, an lived together from the very beginning of our relationship. im 19 and he's 23, the time we've had together has been amazing and i love him to pieces.. to start with i was the embarressed one, didnt really wanna do anything in front of him, he seemed like he didnt mind what he did in front of me, til about 7 months ago, i asked him why he never touched himself in front of me and why he was always so secret about himself in general, im more than happy to do anything sexually in his presence, but i just can't get him to do what i want, im not trying to control him, he just says he feels awkward, i can't understand why. please someone, some tips on how to get him ot of his shell would be fantastic

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Is he reserved in a threesome or just when he's alone with you? Whenever there's a change in behavior I am curious as to the cause - wonder if there's a connection?

If you can't talk with someone about anything... you shouldn't be living with them or having sex with them.

But also understand... how you present something is more important than what you are actually asking... and keep in mind that every person has their own limits and things they will not do. Some things are more open to proper negotiation than others from person to person.

So feel comfortible asking... just be willing to accept that people might feel differently on certain topics than we ourselves might.