Ok so I started having sex when I was 17 and was able to get hard with just a tap on my by a girl or the slightest little kiss when get me me like a rock. For the past 7 months or so been with a few different girls and I could never get as fully hard as I used to its very embarrassing and now I have this girl who I fell in love with and she is sooo beautiful and sexy to me. And I get hard for a bit but not like I use to and then like randomly o go soft and can't get it back up.. is a mental thing? Because I used viagra and it worked but I'm only 22 yrs old and have never had this problem before could someone please help me.? It's putting a strain on my relationship and I feel like.!

And you haven't gone to a Doctor and have them check you out exactly WHY?

No I have and have ran test and there is nothing wrong with me everything is normal.. I did testosterone test and diabetic test blood pressure test and other ones that why I'm so confused. If u have any info on how I can like work right a again please tell me!

Yes, it's mental. Think about white bears instead.

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Yes, it's mental. Think about white bears instead.

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Thank u! I'm going to try that because I can't lose this girl. I feel I might if I don't get my right! Thanks again!

It's called performance anxiety. (See! It even has a name!)

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It's called performance anxiety. (See! It even has a name!)

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I've heard of that! Well its nice to know my problem ain't physical just mental! Again really appreciate the advice !

And stop with the Viagra.

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And stop with the Viagra.

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I've only used it about 4 times. That wouldn't affect me would it?

Probably not. At your age, you don't want to depend on a crutch, but solve the problem in the first place. What goes on in your mind is the most important.

I agree with Wondergirl. It sounds like something you have gotten really worked up about. Sexual arousal is just as much if not more psychological than it is physical. Instead of worrying about your erection, focus on how sexy your girlfriend is. Also, you might consider masturbating less on days when you think you'll have sex as it can reduce your level of arousal (that is, already having had an ejaculation that day can reduce... ).

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Instead of worrying about your erection, focus on how sexy your gf is.

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Exactly! Focus on her, not on yourself.

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Exactly! Focus on her, not on yourself.

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THANK U SOOOO MUCH FOR THE INFO I REALLY THINK IT'S Going to HELP! I am so appreciative for it. And I have tried focusing on her and only her. But I guess I still had in the back of my mind that I wasn't getting hard I know u said think of white bears.. but wouldn't it take me out of the moment... What's the best way.. to overcome this. I will definitely try to do what you say and I will be more than happy to write my exp. But if it doesn't help ( and I think it will work) should I see like a hypnotism guy.. or like a psycoligist?

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I agree with Wondergirl. It sounds like something you have gotten really worked up about. Sexual arousal is just as much if not more psychological than it is physical. Instead of worrying about your erection, focus on how sexy your gf is. Also, you might consider masturbating less on days when you think you'll have sex as it can reduce your level of arousal (that is, already having had an ejaculation that day can reduce...).

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Hey guys thank you so much for the advice I don't want to sound like a freak but I just masterbated to my girl just from the pics in my head and wow I have not gotten so hard in a long time like it worked what you guys told me because even when I would do that before tonight I would loose it because I would think a about it. And tonight I just relaxed picture my girl and git Rick solid my problem is fixed I feel great again! Thank you so much!