I met my wife 2yrs ago and we just got married June of 2012 now when I first met her everything was okay I could talk to her tell her anything or give her advice and she would listen she has 2kids which aren't mine but I help take care of them because their father won't now throughout theses 2yrs a lot of stuffs been changing like we could communicate with no issue but my biggest pet peeve is having a dirty house she will not clean after herself I mean when I say dirty I mean dirty like food on floors counter tips and dinning room table when you walk in it smells of foul trash now I tried talking to her about it but every time I try to tell her her response is ' quit ing', we'll now I'm getting fed up and thinking about divorce I don't want to but I feel communication is important in a relationship and I'm tired of my attempts to communicate being shot down she invites friends and family over and you should see the look on their faces when they walk in if she doesn't cleanup after herself the kids see that now I cleanup whenever I can even though I work a lot of hours any who what should I do?

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Originally Posted by Rfields

I met my wife 2yrs ago and we just got married June of 2012 now when I first met her everything was okay I could talk to her tell her anything or give her advice and she would listen she has 2kids which aren't mine but I help take care of them because their father won't now throughout theses 2yrs alot of stuffs been changing like we could communicate with no issue but my biggest pet peeve is having a dirty house she will not clean after herself I mean when I say dirty I mean dirty like food on floors counter tips and dinning room table when u walk in it smells of foul trash now I tried talking to her about it but every time I try to tell her her response is ' quit ing', we'll now I'm getting fed up and thinking about divorce I don't want to but I feel communication is important in a relationship and im tired of my attempts to communicate being shot down she invites friends and family over and u should see the look on their faces when they walk in if she doesn't cleanup after herself the kids see that now I cleanup whenever I can even tho I work a lot of hours any who what should I do?

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Talk to her, go into counselling.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Talk to her, go into counselling.

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I tried talking to her

Is this a change in her behavior, or was she always a slob?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Is this a change in her behavior, or was she always a slob?

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She use to clean at first

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Originally Posted by Rfields

She use to clean at first

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I mean I don't want to break up with her but what else can I do