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I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and really I can't go over him I'm think I'm totally in love with him. Now he's with another girl that was with him before me and all his friends told me that they're in love with each other and they don't think they going to be separeted one day. So it's hard for me to forget him. A friend told me to search for another guy that I can date but I'm afraid to be broken again and I don't know if I'm strong to face it again . So what should I do?
YOU broke up with him. Now leave him alone to enjoy life and be with his new girlfriend.
And stay away from guys for a while until you get your act together.
You move on. That doesn't mean finding a replacement, it means living your life, realizing that this relationship is over, and getting on with being a better you.
Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire. You don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Work on yourself, on your life, and when you're ready, find someone interesting, then date.
Until then, work on getting over this breakup and work on understanding that it's over.
I just looked at your other posts on this site.
I'm a bit concerned.
You advised a girl that wants to have sex with her virgin boyfriend, and this was the advice you gave;
Sounds to me like you're telling her to not take no for an answer. I'm curious, if this had been a guy trying to take a girl's virginity, would your answer have been different? Is a guy not allowed to say no to sex? If a girl says no, it's rape. Concerning that you seem to think all guys just want sex, and are willing to jump in the sack just because a girl says "let's have sex". :(Quote:
Just go over him and tell : we should have sex and like that he's ganna have some experience too Be sure he's nor ganna refuse :P
Your username is "sweetkid". How old are you? From your other post I'd guess 13-15? If so, why are you giving sex advice, and dating to begin with?
I didn't beak up with him just for fun or something like that. I did it for her she was unhappy and she was always crying and that causes me lot of pain. I didn't know that I loved him that much I tought I stronger. And was absolutlly wrong :/Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Thanks for the advice but how do think I should do to move on? I tried but I faild :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
You know you should move on because you broke up with him so he could be with this other girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sweet kid
Again, how old are you? A very young teen? If so, you'll get over it. In fact, even if you're an adult, which I highly doubt, you'll get over it. Time heals all wounds.
I'd bet that in a few years you'll barely remember his name.
Oh my I just spent many minutes delving into the heart of the matter and I just hit a button and lost it all. Bah hum bug!
ANYWAY I tend to agree with the others but I want to add a couple notes. 1st, I can imagine how painful things are for you especially while at school and especially since you feel you may have actually fallen in "L" with him. We all have been there and I promise you will be OK. You must let go asap though sweetie sweet kid. Everyday you are giving up your power/control and just wasting your precious time by even thinking of him and his new thing for a nano second. Don't let anyone have this kind of power over you. Learn this now if you can. You have so much value! You are changing and growing into the future you. Don't you want to be the most outstanding, mind blowing and awesome person you can posible be? Yes of course! And I want that for you.
Just to start a change for yourself and to regain control consider.
1. When preparing for school every morning, dress your best, but don't be uncomfortable, we want confident.
2. While in school redirect your eyes, ears and thoughts whenever you notice them directed toward that part of your past you are growing away from. And redirect those elements onto anything positive in your life that is about you. Repeat over and over and over. Takes practice but it works.
3rd One final most important thing. There is a place where you are so longed for, needed so desperately, where you can love and be truly loved, unlike anything you may be able to imagine. Not Church, no. Sweetie Sweet kid, go to your animal shelter and give your kindness to the little criters. If there is no animal shelter then go volenteer at a Veteranians Office if you have no local vet then you create something! It could be a walking the dog business, pet grooming business, a little business where you hand out flyers for people who found strays and you love them and groom these little lost one's back to health and find a home for them. One at a time until you can handle more. I hope you are an animal lover. But if not you could do similar with babysitting. But the pets in our societies are so in need and there are so many young people out there like yourself struggling with things that should not yet be.
And you my dear could be the trend setter for a new way for our young ladies especially to redirect their attentions and emotions of the heart onto a safe much needed place. This place has no losers either. It is all a win. And an extra bonus I am sure you would find, is that people really notice and pay so much attention to this kind of student. You will get more attention, compliments and many other little gifts, (I refuse to say potential boyfriends but.. ) too many heart warming tresurers that will be good in helping you develop your character. There will be far too many wonderful gifts for me to even begin to guess the count.
Time for me to go, my pets are awaiting. I am a gabber though and I love the young people in our USA. I hope you stay in touch. I am trying to do better at that myself here. I am a Newbie
I hope you have an imagination that has been nutured and allowed to dream big. Don't waste this special time of your life on anything or anybody but yourself and your family and hopefully some animals or posibly children. Refocus sweetie Sweet kid, and get ready for the time of your life, your teen years.
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