Im an empty nester and obviously have lived my life for my husband and kids. But that's not all the truth. I've been scared and I've hidden from life an now I feel all alone and like a loser

Why don't you just have the phasze YOLO in your mind... you only live once... most people might think that its stupid but honestly its made me do more things that I would never do e.g. I jumped 9m into water doing cannyoning. I stood on that ledge and in my mind recited the letters YOLO. It meant you only have one life so make it a gooden make the most out of life and in future you can say, yeah I did that!! And it feels really good and I certinly feel proud of myself, just set little challenges for yourself, e.g. if you get inviteed out with some mates... say I WILL do this and I won't back out.. something like that...

YOLO! I like that. Thank you.