Hi Alll,
My boyfriend is always on the edge... like if I ask him something which is a normal question or statement... he fumes up and answers in a hurting way... he's always so angry with me... I don't know what to do.. sometimes m just scraed of talking to him...

Why is he still your boyfriend? Leave him alone. Anger, fear, that is a bad combination for a relationship.

But I Love him and I know he loves me too... its our first relationship.. for him and for me too... do you think I'm just scared of being alone?

How old are you?
I think you just want a boyfriend and you will have him even though he has a temper and you're scared of talking to him. That smells desperation.
Leave this boy alone.

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Originally Posted by homegirl 50

how old are you?
I think you just want a boyfriend and you will have him even though he has a temper and you're scared of talking to him. That smells desperation.
Leave this boy alone.

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23...

You are not a child then. This man is bad news and could possibly become physically abusive (he is already emotionally abusive) if he realizes he can control you and you will let him.
There are plenty of guys out there who are not like this.
When you have problems in a relationship, the key to dealing with them is communication. If you are too afraid to talk to him how do you work through problems? You don't. He controls you, and that is no good.
Get rid of this guy.

Even if you two love each other and its your first relationship, he should NOT be mentally abusing you with words. He might not know that he's intentionally hurting you, since you said its your first relationship, then he might not be aware of this. If talking about it to him doesn't work, then you should be thinking about breaking up.

As Homegirl 50 said he "could possibly become physically abusive". After all, a relationship is a two way thing, you give and take and they give and take. But what I believe is that if you're not happy most of the time with the person you are with, its better to break up.

A couple needs to be happy, why go into an unhappy relationship?

That man knows he is being abusive. He knows he is saying hateful things and he knows you are frightened of him.
You need to leave him alone.

If this is your relationship now, imagine what things would be like if you were married, had kids and all kinds of issues that you don't have now.

Best advise, get rid of him asap.