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  • Aug 3, 2012, 12:34 PM
    tatjanaMam
    My boyfriend doesn't want sex with me that often?
    We are together 1,5 year now and our sexual life has been decreased dramatically!
    The first six months were great, we had intercourse at least 4 times per week and now not even once. It makes me feel sad actually and asking for it kills my sex drive. I have dropped some hints now and then but he just pretends he doesn't get it. I know that he loves me and that he enjoys having sex with me but his laziness disappoints me. Even my body doesn't feel that good anymore because of rare sex I hurt.
    I don't know what to do about this, I love him very much and there is no way I cheat on him. I am thinking of working longer, hang out more with my friends and find some new hobby to get over my sexual needs.
  • Aug 3, 2012, 12:37 PM
    Wondergirl
    That's a good idea. Get busy with other stuff so you don't obsess over the sex and meanwhile make you a more interesting person. And it will also give your brain new avenues to travel.
  • Aug 3, 2012, 12:53 PM
    talaniman
    When the bodies cool off, its time for the minds to make love. If they can't then there was nothing but lust in the first place.

    I think we all go through this change when the honeymoon is over, and the real work of maintaining a relationship really sets in.
  • Aug 3, 2012, 12:53 PM
    tatjanaMam
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    That's a good idea. Get busy with other stuff so you don't obsess over the sex and meanwhile make you a more interesting person. And it will also give your brain new avenues to travel.

    Thanks for the support! We live together and I cannot hide anymore that something is bothering me. Now he is on holidays in Italy and we talk on skype and he says he misses me and misses my body, but I know that this excitement will die very fast. Im pulling away from him and I don't like it...
    Am I making a big issue out of this? Did anyone have a similar experience?
  • Aug 3, 2012, 01:00 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tatjanaMam View Post
    Did anyone have a similar experience?

    There's even a saying about it -- "The honeymoon is over."

    Welcome to the club! Now is when you two get to be intimate and best friends without the sex. Read Tal's response again.

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