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  • Aug 3, 2012, 05:45 AM
    27Cheesecake
    Can you have a serious relationship with someone from a different school?
    I've been best friends with this boy (I'm a girl) for about a year now, and he's the best friend I've ever had. (We go to different schools, but we go to the movies together sometimes in the weekend, and talk to each other everyday through text and Skype). We love each other, not just in a crush way but also in a best friend way. I don't get along with anyone as much as I do with him and I don't know what I would do without him.
    However, this morning we had a big argument, and he said this to me:
    "I don't want you to forgive me. I just want you to know. The reason I didn't treat 'like a girlfriend' when we went out is because I had always treated you like one because deep down I wanted you to be my girlfriend. I wanted to be your first kiss. I wanted to be your best friend. I wanted you to go to the same high school as me so I could see you and talk to you everyday. I wanted to be best friends through high school. I wanted to be best friends with you untill I died. I even thought that one day I'd probably marry you. Everytime you said I didn't care about you I wanted to scream that I turned up on your door step in the rain to say happy birthday."
    We are going to different high schools next year, and although we already go to different schools, (he goes to an all boys school and I go to an all girls school) I'm scared that next year will be different because he's going to a co-ed school and I'm going to an all girls high school.
    So I was wondering, will we be able to have a (serious) relationship next year, despite the different high schools? Will we be able to maintain our friendship?
    I love him and I'm really scared of losing him just because we'll be at different schools.

    Thanks.
    P.S we are both 13
  • Aug 3, 2012, 06:13 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    It is very possible, it's just a lot harder. You're still very young, stop trying to grow up so fast. Talking about marriage and all that at your age is somewhat foolish, regardless of how you feel. If you truly 'love' him as you say you do and he 'loves' you as equally, nothing should be able to tear you both apart. If anything separates you two then it just wasn't meant to be.
  • Aug 3, 2012, 10:14 AM
    ArcticWolves85
    Depends on how far your boyfriend lives from you. If you're able to get to your boyfriend and vice versa than I don't see why you two couldn't spend time to grow together. If you want to hear something positive this is how my relationship started. Met my girl at a college work bbq & she went to an entirely different college. We made it work by using the public transportation system (bus/train). If this is an option for you than do it. If you two are definitely in love with each other than I'm sure you will find ways to make it work. Going to separate high schools/college/jobs should not be cause for concern.

    However, you did mention he is going to a co-ed school which I'm assuming has you worried about meeting another girl. This then all comes down to trust. Do you trust your boyfriend to remain faithful to you? If he's done or said anything to doubt this trust then it's going to be that much harder on you.

    As C0bra said, you are both very young and things like this can happen. If it does I am sorry. The ball is in both your courts and if you two truly want to be together than do it instead of thinking about it. As I always like to say, Prove it! :) And I'm not talking about getting married. You're way to young to even be talking like that, lol. Just spend time together and enjoy your life!

    Good Luck & Have Fun!
  • Aug 8, 2012, 01:42 PM
    JudyKayTee
    You're unhappy in your relationship with him. Why are you concerned about different schools?

    Meet someone else who doesn't make you so unhappy. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...al-688159.html

    This is a troubled, complicated relationship - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...me-682846.html, very "Junior High School" stuff.

    You want to die? You don't know if you're suicidal or depressed? You've got to work on yourself before you work on any relationship - the voices in your head concern me.

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