Ask Me Help Desk - What are his intentions?

There's this guy I've known for 10 yrs. And we dated when we were 11 but of course were forced to break up because we were too young to date. He again asked me out, I accepted but we had to break up again. We like each other all through middle school. We fell off in high school because we went to different high schools and we didn't have cell phones or transportation. Once fb became popular we reconnected through that (in later high school years)

Our senior year we saw each other for the 1st time since 8th grade. Instantly there was a connection again and we've been in contact since (we're juniors in college now). Although we liked each other we just stayed on a friendship level all these years because we were in different cities because of college. Also it seemed like one of us always had a significant other, yes we stayed in touch and hung out SOMETIMES even though we had relationships.

Well now we're both single and talking more than ever (like every day) he leaves for school in a few weeks and wants to keep talking. We started talking about 2 months ago. He has joked about marriage, love. When we're around each other he touches my face and hands, compliments me (but not too much) he has told me he likes me more than just for physical attributes and benefits. He's always been the one pursuing me over the years. I hardly ever call/text him 1st etc.

Even in our other relationships anybody with eyes could see how much we like each other so I'm wondering if he just could never get over me? Or does he have serious intentions with me? Or what? Yes we've already had sex so please no "he's trying to get in your panties" comments seriously. He going try for 10 years? And he already has got in them and it still hasn't gone anywhere =)

also let me state that my very LAST relationship started with us just being friends for years... then talking... we ended up having a sexual friendship that turned into a real relationship and ended up head over hills in love he talked about proposing and everything, planning where we would live the whole 9 so relationships can begin like this I'm just trying to see if history is repeating itself for me but I guess no one would truly know lol but the world isn't always just black and white I believe great things can form from just being friends or friends with benefits at 1st because from experience it's happen to me before

He just seems to be trying to have somee fun, when you had sex were you in a realationship together? If yes, describe the situation, if no, you're a slut. In the nicest possible way:) I believe his intentions are to have a laugh, flirt a bit, casual sex blaah blah, that sort of thing, however by the touching the face thing, he seems to be more sensative, so he could possible be serious, however, just straight up ask him, it's the easyest (sorry about the spelling) way around it, good luck!:)

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Originally Posted by daddyimfallin

he just seems to be trying to have somee fun, when you had sex were you in a realationship together? if yes, describe the situation, if no, your a slut. in the nicest possible way:) i believe his intentions are to have a laugh, flirt a bit, casual sex blaah blah, that sorta thing, however by the touching the face thing, he seems to be more sensative, so he could possible be serious, however, just straight up ask him, its the easyest (sorry about the spelling) way around it, good luck!:)

Thanks for the comment; no we have not been in a relationship since we were in junior high but our friendship has NOT been sexual all these years... we had sex for the first time April of this year but I am fully aware he wants fun right now and so do I neither 1 of us wants something serious however I find it hard to believe that any man would stay interested in someone for that long if sex was the only thing that they like.. which from his mouth he told me it wasn't the only thing he was interested in,I have also put a time frame on us "talking" to prevent being strung along and things.. I just wanted some other opinions just to see you know... and let me just address this real quick... I think before you go calling someone a slut it'd be nice to have a little more background so I'll give it to you, I'm in my 20's and have had sex with 2 guys... this 1 who I've known half of my life and the other who was my boyfriend of 2+ years... didn't even lose my virginity until I was damn near in college... so I'm not sure how this sight really works all I know is I stand up for myself and wouldn't let you or anyone else say false things about me but don't know me from a can of paint... there is a fine line between being real and being rude... now with that being said I do appreciate all the other things you said and thank you

I think you both a friends and buddies and comfortable enough for casual sex.A great time is his intention,and nothing serious because as you said,you have known each other for a long time and he hasn't declared a commitment,nor asked for one has he?

Why does he have to have any intentions when things are already great without them? Sex does make you wonder though, plus you like each other. Unspoken friends with benefits sometimes? Looks like it.

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Originally Posted by daddyimfallin

he just seems to be trying to have somee fun, when you had sex were you in a realationship together? if yes, describe the situation, if no, your a slut. in the nicest possible way:) i believe his intentions are to have a laugh, flirt a bit, casual sex blaah blah, that sorta thing, however by the touching the face thing, he seems to be more sensative, so he could possible be serious, however, just straight up ask him, its the easyest (sorry about the spelling) way around it, good luck!:)

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I think you both a friends and buddies and comfortable enough for casual sex.A great time is his intention,and nothing serious because as you said,you have known each other for a long time and he hasn't declared a commitment,nor asked for one has he?

Why does he have to have any intentions when things are already great without them? Sex does make you wonder though, plus you like each other. Unspoken friends with benefits sometimes?? Looks like it.

We have dated twice before in the past but we were too young to stay dating... we fell off in high school and reconnected our last year... did not make anything serious because we didn't phones or transportation to make anything serious... since we've been in college so far we've had other relationships although we stayed in touch we are JUST starting to talk again since June... I know he wants nothing serious right now he just got out of a controlling relationship so yes we've known each other for all these years but have never really been in position to re try a relationship until RECENTLY since he left his girlfriend & we started talking on a "more than friendship" level that is why I'm asking the question

Also let me state that my very LAST relationship started with us just being friends for years... then talking... we ended up having a sexual friendship that turned into a real relationship and ended up head over hills in love he talked about proposing and everything, planning where we would live the whole 9 so relationships can begin like this I'm just trying to see if history is repeating itself for me but I guess no one would truly know lol but the world isn't always just black and white I believe great things can form from just being friends or friends with benefits at 1st because from experience it's happen to me before

I can see where you may be hopeful, but be careful because it may not be the same with a different person.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I can see where you may be hopeful, but be careful because it may not be the same with a different person.

I def am hopeful I just feel like we've always wanted each other back although my last relationship started like that I felt helpless with no goals or time frames so I was strung along for a little while before something started but I won't let that happen this time I put some goals & a time frame on us talking; if the goals aren't met & nothing happens by the time frame I'm bouncing lol thank you though