Getting straight to the point, I had this wonderful gal of mine. She was my first crush, when we both were 10 year olds. Later, I became her best friend. When I was about to propose her, I found out that she was already in a relationship with somebody else.
I made myself forget her, which took quite a long time. In the due process, I would ignore her, every time I saw her.
Later, when she was about 16, by that time she had broken up, I admitted to have feelings for her, and so did she,
Then we had this amazing 10 months. I know I’m just 17, but still, I really loved this girl a lot, and had made plans with her, for our future.

The problem came when I ignored her for about 2 weeks in college.
I had some familly, and academic problems, and one day I broke down. Since she was the only one I had, I confessed her everything, and she consoled me.
So after, 2 whole weeks of depression I start to feel happy. I make a song on her for our anniversary, save money for gifts, write a 30 page memoir on her.
It’s like I’m totally mad on her.

Then, one day she comes says she wants to break up, crying.
It’s been 2 days. I've been on anti-depression pills, I’ve gave away all the money I spent on beggars. And I broke my guitar when I found out that she even removed me from FB. I tore away the lyrics of my song, haven’t been able to study or do anything. ME, who was the topper of the class, now in fear of flunking.

I simply can’t get her over with, and right now I’m off to college. Hopefully, I’ll either get her back, or my life will be thrown away.
Any brilliant suggestions on what to say to her? I know she still loves me, the way she said it.
And I want to do whatever it takes, to get her back.

Hang in there buddy!
Ok look, obviously your not the only one hurting, she was crying too! She must have been really upset over something. Ask her why? Tell her you'll be there for her, most girls just want a guy to take care, and protect her. Be that guy! And if she is deadly serious about it, like she never wants to see you again give her some space. I hope I could help you - Jill

You're hopeless and completely dependent upon this girl, it's almost sad. It's probably a good thing she broke up with you, because you really need to work on yourself. You need to be able to survive on your own, before you can survive with someone else.

Not only that but you're 17 years old. You're still young and you're going to be young for many more years to come. Stop trying to be a grown up and enjoy your childhood while it lasts. You're going to blink, and when your eyes open you're going to be 30 and you're going to wish you were 17 again.

Slow down buddy, take life one step at a time and enjoy every minute of it! Before you have no time, or energy left to even appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by tasila

IVe been on anti depression pills, ive gave away all the money i spent on beggars.and i broke my guitar when i found out that she even removed me from fb. I tore away the lyrics of my song,havnt been able to study or do anything. ME, who was the topper of the class, now am fearing of flunking.

I simply can't get her over with,, and right now im off to college.
Hopefully, ill either get her back,, or my life will be thrown away.
Any brilliant suggestions on what to say to her??>
I know she still loves me, the way she said it.
And i want to do whatever it takes,to get her back.

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I have difficulty believing you're the topper of your class, based on your spelling - but, anyway, you need to get yourself together before you are any "good" for anyone else.

Honestly? Your behavior would scare me to death.

Jill and Cobra - Thanks for the advice.
Judy - I was, literally shaking when I wrote this post.

About a week has passed, and I fell better. This whole week was hell. The next time I met her, I ran away, isolated myself, and clenched my fist,sat down,and acted like a retard.
I scored a pathetic score in my test.
Ive reduced the dosage of my pills, and have started focusing on my life. IF it was not for my family, I wouldn't be here. I don't know whether to be angry or sad on her. I just wanted her to know that these 10 months were the best of my life, but she doesn't even look at me.

Thank you everybody.

Give her some time...
You know you love her so hold on that truth and continue with your life...
You don't need to be angry and neither do you need to be sad...
Just wait and give her time to come to terms with her decision...
Have you considered what reason she had? Wad the choice entirely her own or was she influenced? You had her to confide in but she didn't have you for for those 2 weeks and maybe she had something to say then?
And as long as she loves you, well, you know that this will end and you will be together...
And you can let her know exactly what this relationship meant to you when she is willing to hear... don't force it on her early...
And once she has heard, maybe she will come back...
Just don't lose hope... ever!

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Originally Posted by tasila

Jill and Cobra - Thanks for the advice.
Judy - I was, literally shaking when i wrote this post.

About a week has passed, and i fell better. This whole week was hell. The next time I met her, I ran away, isolated myself, and clenched my fist,sat down,and acted like a retard.
I scored a pathetic score in my test.
Ive reduced the dosage of my pills, and have started focusing on my life. IF it was not for my family, i wouldn't be here. I don't know whether to be angry or sad on her. I just wanted her to know that these 10 months were the best of my life, but she doesn't even look at me.

Thank you everybody.

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Stay strong, life only gets better but it's you who decides that. Life is your story and this is just a new chapter. Make it a good one!

You need to breath, relax, calm down. It is a break up, they suck, we have all been through some, some hurt more than others, some hurt some people more than others. But regardless, they are common. You lived a long time just fine without her and you have just forgotten how it is to live alone. But you are able to do it, because you have done it in the past. You need to accept the break up and keep yourself entertained, go out, meet new people, watch the olympics, read a book, we a have a very long list of things to do after a break up in the main "relationships" part of the forums that are very good, find some that work for you. The only thing that will make this go away is time, time will heal your fresh wound, unfortunately it is the only time that will. Go no contact, erase her from everything and become unavailable, I have also felt the way you are feeling right now, and my grades fell A LOT, I went into a mild depression, only to come out 6 months later and laugh about the whole incident. It has only been 2 days, things WILL get better, keep your head held high. Cry if you want to, no one is here to judge you, do it in intimacy, it is OK. Your feelings and anxiety will be through the roof at this point in your life, and although it is hard to concentrate on everyday things and to not think about her especially since EVERYTHING seems to remind you of her, it will happen. You just need to be idle for a while, kill your feelings, harden your heart just for a little while, and let it go back to normal as time passes.

You will be OK, we are here for you, and are here to talk about your progress whenever you relapse with an anxiety attack.

Thank you javi,random,and cobra.
I feel better right now. I was in a depression,and did cry a lot , but now I am OK.
There is still a huge pain in the heart, and it just grows exponentially when I see her.
Ill just learn how to move on, that's all I can do for now. But deep within, somewhere in my heart, there will be a space for her. I never knew that I was so sensitive.
I'll be back, just like before.
ANd LIVE A NEW LIFE!
(OR A NEW CHAPTER OF IT)

Thank You everybody.
And its like I had withdrawal symptoms this past week.
Hopefully, the addictions ceased//

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

You're hopeless and completely dependent upon this girl, it's almost sad. It's probably a good thing she broke up with you, because you really need to work on yourself. You need to be able to survive on your own, before you can survive with someone else.

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Thank you,for making me see that.

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Originally Posted by tasila

Thank you javi,random,and cobra.
I feel better right now. I was in a depression,and did cry a lot , but now i am OK.
There is still a huge pain in the heart, and it just grows exponentially when I see her.
Ill just learn how to move on, that's all i can do for now. But deep within, somewhere in my heart, there will be a space for her. I never knew that i was so sensitive.
I'll be back, just like before.!
ANd LIVE A NEW LIFE!!
(OR A NEW CHAPTER OF IT)

Thank You everybody.
And its like I had withdrawal symptoms this past week.
Hopefully, the addictions ceased//

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Exactly... humans are animals of habit, and whenever something changes it hits us hard, we must learn to adapt to new situations.

It's been about 10 days since it occurred. And now I'm perfectly back to normal. There will always be a part of me that misses her. But Ive got to move on. I realized how much time I wasted on trivial things. I spent quite a lot of time with my family, and friends; and I realized how stupid it was to think to give up on my life after the break up. It'll take me some time to realize that's she's gone.

But, I'll live with it.
So long everyone,
Thank you.

-tasila