We have been together for almost 3 years. He is my first love and I feel like I could never live without him. Last summer I found out that all through our relationship he has been flirting with other girls (that he knew) and writing to and calling some girls he "met" through the internet. He was talking to them about sex and masturbating to what they were saying and their pictures. I have always been available and willing when it comes to sex and I still don't understand how he could do that. When I confronted him about it I was planning on leaving him, I felt so humiliated. But I couldn't because I could not imagine my life without him, I love him so much. He was really sorry and promised never to do that again. He gave me all his passwords, access to his phone and such. He made all these promises like not going out if there would be girls, he also started telling me that he loves which he earlier refused to do. A lot has changed and from what I know he has been faithful. But how can I know for sure? I cannot trust him. A lot of the things that he promised me he withdrew and started telling me that all I want is control over him and not trust. I put up with that because I appreciated the way he has changed and that he was not cheating anymore. What I wanted from him most was the truth. Then a seemingly insignificant thing happened. He went out with his guy friends, but the next day I found out he went to a party at some house where there were girls and all that. It's not really the fact that he went there, but that he didn't tell me about it, which to me is like a lie. I feel like that lie took a little brick out of the wall of our house. And though it was one little brick, it was necessary for the wall and the house. Without it, all fell apart. I wanted to break up with him, but again-I couldn't. He told me such sweet things and I hate myself for my weakness. He promised to treat me right and always tell me the truth and I gave him another chance. It was a few days ago. Now I feel like nothing has changed and that though he makes me very happy he just as often makes me incredibly sad and disappointed. What should I do? Please help me:( I'm sorry if I made any mistakes, English is not my native language.

Your lack of independence is scary. You are so dependent of this man that you are willing to let him walk all over you. When is it, I wonder, where you draw the line and be done with this foolishness? If you don't learn to stand up for yourself, and your morals. You're going to get pushed around and walked all over your entire life.

First get rid of this punk, all you are to him is a gateway for guaranteed affection when it is hard for him to find it elsewhere. When he can find it elsewhere, he does, and he's shown you that many times.

Secondly, you need to work on your voice. We all have one, and sure a lot of us are afraid to use it, but sometimes even the most timid and fragile of people need to stand up for what is right.

Stand up for yourself and stop being pushed around!

Hi, I can somewhat relate to your situation and I know how hard it is to find the strength to leave the person you love so much and can not imagine your life without.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we have disagreements all the time, he can be so rude and insensitive and blunt to me. He told me that he watches porn and this hurts me a lot because I felt like I am not enough for him. I am always there to give him love and attention. I have so much resentments towards him that I know it's not going to go anywhere but I just can't bring myself to leave him. Everyday I wake up, I pray that it's the day that I have enough strength to tell him it's over. He would tell me that he loves me and even gave me an engagement ring, but I am full of resentments that I just can't seem to let go. I know that I need to love myself and put my happiness first, love sometimes just isn't enough, you need to have trust and respect and open communications in order for a relationship to survive.

If you don't trust him you have no relationship and I would imagine he hates reporting to you like you are his mother. This relationship is a sinking ship.
When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired you will leave. Until then you will stay miserable and nothing anyone says will change that.
When he gets tired of reporting to you he will leave.

No one likes to be with someone who they can't trust, and no one like to be with a person that doesn't trust them because they have to walk on eggshells. If there is no trust, there is not relationship. End it and stop torturing yourself, if you can't bring yourself to trust him, then it is time to move on. Break up, the pain will stop eventually, it isn't easy, but it is a lot easier when you stop communication completely, change your number, that sort of thing.