My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. I noticed a significant decline in our sex life after the first year of our relationship. I would like to have sex at least once a week but now I'm lucky if it's once a month. Anytime I bring this up there is a big argument and never gets me anywhere. This upsets me very much. I would like an intimate relationship with the man I love. I hate the rejection and I can feel myself esteem sinking lower everyday. I can't bring the subject up anymore because when I do it frustrates him. We have gone over this many many times and no change. He says his desire is gone due to the constant "nagging". We are both in our 20's. What can I do from here? Thank you!

You break up with him and find someone else! You can't force him to have sex. He doesn't want it if you ask, he doesn't want it if you don't ask. Why do people stay with people who don't meet their expectations? If you think there is something you aren't doing right - I highly doubt it, but if you really are a nagger, then STOP. Don't nag the entire time it takes you to move out, and if he suddenly changes his mind (I doubt that too) then you can change your mind too.

My fiancée was the same we didn't have sex for months on end when I brought it up she said it didn't do anythign for her really did mess with my head... I will never know the real reason why she didn't want it :(

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You break up with him and find someone else! You can't force him to have sex. He doesn't want it if you ask, he doesn't want it if you don't ask. Why do people stay with people who don't meet their expectations? If you think there is something you aren't doing right - I highly doubt it, but if you really are a nagger, then STOP. Don't nag the entire time it takes you to move out, and if he suddenly changes his mind (I doubt that too) then you can change your mind too.

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It's tough when you have feelings invested for so long that's why I've looked for things I can do differently. I just hate feeling like he is the one in control and determines when we can be intimate. Maybe I do bring this up a lot but it's because it's important to me. He doesn't even seem concerned my needs are not met. The whole thing is sad but tough to walk away when you still love the person.

There are people like that I'm sorry for you, but a relationship is not always about sex