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My girlfriends mom doesn't want me to see her anymore. HELP

Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 3 years, she is 14 and I'm 15. I met her in orchestra 3 years ago and we became very good friends very quickly. We would flirt all the time.. and we were best friends. One day she told me that her family would move to canada in a year, and we live in goergia right now so that's pretty far. I felt so sad, I couldn't bear the thought of losing her and then I realised how much I truly cared about her. Maybe it was just a thought at the time, but I felt like I could take a bullet for her. I sat next to her and told her I loved her, and how much I really cared about her, and she started blushing and she confessed her feelings for me as well. That was 7 months ago, and a month later I met her mother at a school science fair, I told her who I was and tried my hardest to be a gentleman. We got along for quite sometime, but then in may she found out that I was going to summer school, and she also found out about me skipping class with her. She was concerned by this but I'm not sure if she hated me yet at the time. She won't allow me to go on dates with her unless I'm with her mom, I found this rather awkward. Me and her have gone out to eat, and been to the movies, but her mom didn't tag along. But let me get to the point... Every night my girlfriends mom takes away her laptop and her computer, so we can't talk over night. She got her brothers laptop and we talked alll night long, her mother found out and got furious... I don't know where my girlfriend is, but 5 hours ago she sent me this message. " squishy ); Its me... Squishy I never went to sleep, when I went to take a whiz my mom went in my room and found the secret laptop [:/]... and then she got mfurious , and she pulled me towards to her room and once there she started yelling at me so so much and saying that she doesn't want me to ever ever see you again or talk to you again , she said a lot of mean things and then she hit me with this really hard belt and left like marks on my legs but it didn't hurt , that was the first time ever that she has hit me but idc but what hurt me more was her saying that I can't talk to you again... she took my phone, and she's going to dissconnect the internet and she put my sister against me saying that I kept the laptop without caring about the consequces and now I think my sister is mad at me, and Im really sad squishy I need you sos so much ); I don't know what to do,my eyes are all swollen from crying so much :(my mom even asked me if we did happy stuff already and that hurt me a lot I can't believe she asked that , she doesn't know me well enough to know I wouldn't do that [:/] she won't let me communicate with you in any way ); what am I going to do squishy! :/Im really frustrated and I can't think straight. . THE ONLY THING I CARE ABOUT IS YOU ! I Don't WANT HER TO SEERATE US> I Don't Want to STOP TALKING TO YOU> I Don't WANT TO LOSE YOU BABY ): I LOVE YOU SO SO MUCH >>>>:( " (Squishy is our nickname for each other) WHAT DO I DO?? / HELP!

First of all it is really wrong that she hit her over something so stupid and should be reported. After saying that I think you should just give it a litle time and see if her mom lets up. If its not working out at your age there is not much you can do.

You two were up ALL NIGHT talking? If my young teen daughter was doing that, I would certainly put a stop to it too. I wouldn't hit her, but it sounds like her mom was furious at how you two took advantage of her good graces.

Let time go by. Yes, this girl will move away, and life will go on. When the two of you are older and have shown you are responsible and not so sneaky, the mom might change her mind (if the two of you even remember each other's names then).

It's angering me, what you two are telling me, just because we are young and are in love doesn't mean we won't last, we aren't like you disgusting adults looking for sex and lust, we are a young couple who want to be together. We are up all night talking, playing chess over the internet, it was fun, we enjoyed ourselves. We weren't speaking of inappriopraite nonsense. We may be young but we aren't fools and we are committed to each others love, were not some couple who want each other for pleasure, or some little kids who think we are in love but are simply blind, we know each other, became friends, took it a bit further and made a mistake were hoping to fix, I'm asking for advice as a young man, not a lecture.

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Originally Posted by kekoface27

It's angering me, what you two are telling me, just because we are young and are in love doesn't mean we won't last, we aren't like you disgusting adults looking for sex and lust

I too was once young and in love, but didn't disobey my parents and didn't stay up all night talking to my beloved when I knew it was wrong. And the two of you DID know it was wrong.

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We weren't speaking of inappriopraite nonsense. We may be young but we aren't fools

Staying up all night to goof around IS "inappriopraite nonsense" and very foolish, especially when you know your and her parents don't want you to do that.

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a mistake were hoping to fix, I'm asking for advice as a young man, not a lecture.

And I gave you a solution, but in your blind rage, you must have not read that part.

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I too was once young and in love, but didn't disobey my parents and didn't stay up all night talking to my beloved when I knew it was wrong. And the two of you DID know it was wrong.

Staying up all night to goof around IS "inappriopraite nonsense" and very foolish, especially when you know your and her parents don't want you to do that.

And I gave you a solution, but in your blind rage, you must have not read that part.

Your right, I'm sorry but I'm not in a happy mood right now. I just miss her, I haven't been able to see her in a month.

Right now I seriously feel lie I'm talking to her mother. What would you do if I were your duaghters boyfriend? What would you want me to do to make up for this.

School will start again soon. Don't you go to the same school?

Bottom line here is that you specifically and willfully defied her mother's orders. While I don't condone the corporal punishment, punishment was called for here.

You should be angry AT YOURSELVES for defying parental edicts.

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Right now i seriously feel lie im talking to her mother. What would you do if i were your duaghters boyfriend? what would you want me to do to make up for this.

Write me a sincere and humble apology note and mail it to me in snail mail.

Promise me you won't do such silly and irresponsible things with my daughter ever again. She is the light of my life, and I want you to love and protect her just like I do.

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You should be angry AT YOURSELVES for defying parental edicts.

You don't understand how angry I am with myself, fate and a matter of choices brought me to this yesterday causing this problem. I wish I could go back and change all of my choices and fix it all, if I could I wouldn't ever do this again. But you see, that last 4 days we've been really busy lately and haven't had anytime to talk, we had at least 30 min of conversation the last 4 days, so we just wanted to talk for a little while. I know now how wrong it was, I got her hurt, its my fualt as a man I know but, I just miss her, and I'm very angry with myself and extremely disapointed.

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Write me a sincere and humble apology note and mail it to me in snail mail.

Her mother speaks spanish, so I'd have to learn a lot to send her a letter don't you think? But I'm willing to do that if it'll help.

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Originally Posted by kekoface27

Her mother speaks spanish, so i'd have to learn a lot to send her a letter don't you think? but im willing to do that if it'll help.

Does anyone in the family speak English besides the daughter? Write it in English, for pete's sake!

Oh, and check your spelling before you mail it. Or even post it here first for us to make suggestions.

You know your good at making me feel dumber and dumber. All me and her did was play chess and listen to instrumental music, we thought it was fun, and cute, and sort of romantic. We hadn't talked in a while. Yes I know I broke the rules, I lied, blah blah blah! Jesus christ dude! I know, I should be angry, disapointed, think about what I've done , typical adult quotes don't you think? One problem I have with you people is you don't know how to put yourselves in someone else shoes. I speak spanish, but ever since my father died when I was 7 I never I stopped speaking most of my spanish, my brothers and sisters speak english, and I don't see my mom because she works all day and night. So I'm having a rough life, for a 15 year old. Yeah everyone goes through their problems, but we fall to learn how to pick ourselves up right? Well this is me trying to pick myself up, and your being mean, your not really helping me.

How am I mean? I'm trying to help you make a good impression on her mother. A poorly written, misspelled apology note won't help your cause. You always want to put your best foot forward, especially when you are in the wrong.

How many nights did you two stay up all night playing and talking? Be honest, please.

And what does this mean? "she also found out about me skipping class with her."

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How many nights did you two stay up all night playing and talking? Be honest, please.

It was only this once, I promise.

And this? What does this mean? "she also found out about me skipping class with her."

The last day of school, they told all the students to go to the field, her class wasn't supposed to leave, but she left anyway to come and find me. Her mom found out. But it was only because we knew summer was coming and we wouldn't see each other for two months...

So school starts soon?

Yes, but my mom and I lost our home, so we moved to an apartment and she had to pay for a year contract. So I'm going to a different school, and I have to wait two months to transfer schools.