So it has been a pretty long time since I last posted on this forum. I am going through a little bit of a rough patch lately and just wanted some words of encouragement.

For the past 8 months I have been in love with a woman I work with. I was always very careful about how I showed my interest given I did not really want to cause any misunderstandings especially since we are in the same workplace. Throughout this period I have been getting mixed signals. At one point she would be very flirty and interested and the next totally unresponsive. Whenever I would try and convince myself there is no hope and I should let myself get on with it she would appear again from nowhere and take me back to square 1. Now I found out yesterday that she hooked up with another co-worker over the weekend. And to be honest I really do feel like sh*t. I know I have no right whatsoever but it has dropped my morale very much. This has been compounded by a bunch of work and family related things happening in my life right now and it has really left me at a bad place.

Thanks for reading this. Any words of encouragement would be appreciated.

Life always brings us down. I think it has a lot to do with the way we think and analyze. The way you look at different situations can really change the outlook you have on life. Kind of like the age old "Glass half full, instead of half empty."

You have to remember this is your story, life I mean. You choose how each day starts and ends. There are things you cannot change, but it's how you deal with them that continues to leave you in control.

As far as the girl you love hooking up with someone else, you're right about not having the right to get upset about it. That is an example of something you cannot change, it's hard to accept it, but it's only as hard as you let it.