He was 40 I was just about to turn 15 going on 16 yrs old... he raped me can I still charge him now 28 yrs later? And after having 3 of his children , marying him and now divorced... I got pregnant from him and my only parent mother was dying... what do I do. I still think he took away my choices after all these years

In short NO.

I was about to look up the SOL on sex crimes in Canada. And then I saw that you married him and had 3 children with him. As soon as you married him you lost the right to claim rape, even statutory rape.

You will have no way to convict him at this point. Counseling to learn to deal with it, would be recommended. Can you report it, yes, but the Crown will do nothing with a case like this, no way to get a conviction.

Was it rape with force, or did you do it willingly at 15 going on 16?

If you were in agreement to it, you really had all your choices, you merely made poor ones. You always have choices, you can chose today to start making new and better ones.

No one else controls or ruins our life, we either allow it to happen, or we decide to change.

Also, 28 years ago the age of consent in Canada was 14.