My dad had cancer for 16months and when I was 12 I went to visit my him in the hospice with my family, I stood in front of his bed and he closed his eyes and stopped breathing and then opened his eyes so wide and looked at me then died and I am now 15years old and ever since I have flash backs and nightmares and I don't know what to do about them?

I personally would be pleased and proud that he opened his eyes as if to say goodbye to me and look at me one last time. My dad died suddenly of a massive heart attack 600 miles away from me, so I never had a chance to say goodbye to him or see him before he died (no warning). If you think of his passing in a positive way like I suggested in my first sentence, it will be easier for you to accept his death and get past these nightmares.

Smile when you think of your dad and talk about him a lot. Do you remember all the good things about him? Tell us some of them.

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I personally would be pleased and proud that he opened his eyes as if to say goodbye to me and look at me one last time. My dad died suddenly of a massive heart attack 600 miles away from me, so I never had a chance to say goodbye to him or see him before he died (no warning). If you think of his passing in a positive way like I suggested in my first sentence, it will be easier for you to accept his death and get past these nightmares.

Smile when you think of your dad and talk about him a lot. Do you remember all the good things about him? Tell us some of them.

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Thank you, and yeah he used to take me camping and fishing because we both loved being outside, he used to try and do anything for me because I'm the daddys girl but again thank you!

Tell me more about the camping and fishing. Any funny story?

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Tell me more about the camping and fishing. Any funny story?

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I remember catching all the big fish when he used to get the small ones, also at camping he would make me and my brother and friends sit in a group and tell stories and that he would make us all hide and he would come and find us it was great!

Did he ever make a bonfire and you guys toasted weenies or marshmallows?

Those are wonderful memories that you can keep with you always.
Do you have any more?

Yeah I have loads, he used to take and help me with dance class when I was little whitch was so funny, it's the small things what are the best

How did he help you with dance class?

He would help me remember it by dancing it with me when I got home

With music playing?