Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year lived together a year now and the beginning things were great I couldn't have asked for a better relationship. I love him with all my heart but for a while now I've felt like he's just lost interest in me. He doesn't touch me he kisses me like I'm his mom and we rarely have sex probably a month or two in between and this has been going on for about 6 months now.

He used to be this fun loving laid back constantly makes you laugh kind of guy but now he's angry all the time he never talks to me and when he does its to yell at me for something. I just want the man back that I fell in love with. Hes 27 years old and he's not cheating so I don't know what's going on with him I wish I could figure out why he's so unhappy yet always tells me nothings wrong but I know there is. I don't want to crowd him or push him to talk but I feel so alone in this relationship.

I give him his space, I pretend that I'm OK with it to avoid confrontation I don't want to upset him he says he loves me and wants to be with me but why is he so irritable with me all the time and why does he show me no affection?

Stop trying to avoid confrontation and calmly, during quiet times, express your hopes, dreams, fears and concerns.

The honeymoon is over and time to get to work to maintain and grow a healthy relationship through honest communications. Not all confrontation is bad you know.

Looks like you should talk about breaking up just to give them a reality check... from my experience... my girlfriend just broke up with me and I now know if she takes me back I will forever change and show affection at all times for her... by the way if you get a chance could you provide some feedback for me

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Stop trying to avoid confrontation and calmly during quiet times express you hopes,dreams,fears and concerns.

The honeymoon is over and tie to get toworkto maintain and grow a healthy relationship through honest communications.

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Its not that simple I've tried talking to him but I don't ever get to say what I need to because he doesn't let me talk he always gets mad and turns it around as if I did something to make him angry. I'm a very loving person I'm happy I'm not insecure about myself I'm always nice to him even when he doesn't show the same courtesy I don't know how to make him listen to me without being so irritable. It seems like all I do is make him more angry

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Looks like you should talk about breaking up just to give them a reality check...

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We've done that... not for long but he actually left me. He told me that he was unhappy and that he needed to do it so I let him. But 3 days later he came back and told me that wasn't what he wanted and that it was the worst 3 days of his life and he wanted to work things out. Things were great for a couple of weeks he was way more affectionate he actually acted like he cared and then it started again if its not me then what is it

When you tolerate bad behavior, you are sure to get it, and that's your part in this. The rest is all him, and this is but a preview of what your life with him will be like.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

When you tolerate bad behavior, you are sure to get it, and thats your part in this. The rest is all him, and this is but a preview of what your life with him will be like.

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Its nit always bad but when it is I can't stand it and it happens often and then we sit in silence like were not even there I don't want to be depressed and I don't want him to be either I know what my problem is but I need him to help me fix it I want him back and I want myself back