After seven years this girl and I been together and we've known each other, always loved each other. I'm 21 and she 18, everything was great until after she graduated and we always talk about living together, and all that good stuff. I've done everything for her. I never cheated on her, lied to her I was always honest. And now she starts to change because she drinks more now and smokes mj. She has this ex that I caught her telling him she wants him. But this guy treated her like when me and her weren't talking for a year she was with him and he treated her like . But I was always there for her, never gave up on her. And loved her for her not because she had a body or anything like that. Everything changed after she graduated. But she have nothing really going for her. We were each other first true love. And when we met in person everything went awesome you can tell in her eyes and when we got back to our homes she started after a week disappearing and not calling. And now after she begs me not to leave her and all that she wanted she wants to be single. I gave her the world and I don't understand anymore. Please someone give me good advice because I'm losing it badly. She says she don't want the ex or anything but she goes to her friends house and its her brother who the ex. Why is she being this way to me, after seven years all of a sudden last minute she don't want me no more after everything we been through and how far we came in a couple weeks we were suppose to live with each other. Its killing me inside that she being this way. After everythign I done after how much I respected her, how much I truly love her for her. Why I don't understand no more and it hurts badly

I think you should talk to her explain to her that you still want to be with her and that you don't want her to leave. UMMM about the friend thing I think you just have to trust her to be faithful. If she really loves you as much as you seem to love her then she won't do anything with the brother/ex... if she changed it might just be a phase or your going to have to talk to her about that too if that doesn't stop

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Originally Posted by LoveNSunglasses

i think you should talk to her explain to her that you still want to be with her and that you dont want her to leave. UMMM about the friend thing i think you just have to trust her to be faithful. if she really loves you as much as you seem to love her then she wont do anything with the brother/ex... if she changed it might just b a phase or your gonna have to talk to her about that too if that doesnt stop

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I've already told her and talk to her allot

Than you just have to wait it out and give her time to think... you just have to let her know you will be there when she decides what she is going to do

She's into partying and doing her own thing. She just is using you or keeping you around and you're letting her do it.

Why you allow this is beyond me but the fact is that it's going to continue until you stop it. You are wasting your time with her.

It doesn't seem like she has ever been THAT invested into your relationship, considering that you guys were separated for a while and that she has been taking you for granted and talking to her ex. It is time to stop letting her do this to you, break up with her, clean off, go no contact forever, and find someone who is going to value you. You are worth as much as you tag yourself, if you let people treat you like you are worth nothing, they will take advantage. Break up with her and walk out with your head held high.